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Baby Shower Confusion


I'm planning on having my baby shower in June in Florida where I grew up. Ive asked my sister who lives there to help host it. Unfortunately things have gone down hill for her in her own life and I dont want to bring the subject up of my baby shower. I dont want to seem selfish about it because she's going through alot right now....and broke.  I still want to have the baby shower there and my Mom and my other sister (who is from out of state but traveling to FL in June for it) will be able to help. Should I hint to my "troubled" sister that I would still like her help in planning or should I just ask my Mom and other sister to plan? And should I have a hand in planning my own baby shower? I'm so torn and confused in whats "allowed".

4 years 24 weeks
Just a thought for everyone to consider.....we didn't need anything when we had our 2nd or 3rd babies, let alone the 1st because we were pretty picky about the few things we did actually want, so instead of having "showers" with any of them, we hosted our own "meet the baby" gathering after the baby arrived. We did not expect anything from our guests, but were happy when we were given something, but it was mostly to have everyone get a chance to meet the baby and give us their congrats when the time worked best for us and because we did it as a come and go, we didn't have people calling and popping by constantly during the first few weeks. As for the gifts we were given, mostly they were freezer foods that we could put away and pull out as needed.
CurleyQ CurleyQ 4 years 24 weeks
I decided to talk to my "troubled" sister about the baby shower after I was able to tell her the sex of the baby. :) I shouldnt have had any apprehensions in asking her again because she was still gun ho for hosting it. I'm the one that all ways throws parties for everyone so it's difficult for me to not have a hand in mine. I just told my family i want a "circus theme" baby shower thats more chic than crazy. Because once I have my baby boy I'll feel like I live in a circus. :) I'm buying the invitations since I have all of the addresses and I'm sending them out. I showed them(my sisters and Mom) a cake I really liked and my talented cooking sister will make it. We are a very crafty family so if it can be made instead of bought, we'll do it. Other than that Im letting my sisters and Mom take care of it. And to comment #2....I think me asking them to personally give me presents is a bit silly. Im all ready doing that in inviting them. Right? :D Thanks for everyones comments.
xlove33 xlove33 4 years 24 weeks
It's okay to be involved in the planning of your own shower. You shouldn't do the bulk of it but if you have a food preference or theme preference, i think it's perfectly fine to say so. If you are someone who knows what they like and what they want, it's best to speak up instead of ending up disappointed. In my case, i am a designer and the hostesses of my shower can barely write their name legibly let alone print something from their computer in color, so i stepped in a did some design work for my own shower. But to me it was fun and i was happy to do it so that i'd have the outcome i and my guests would be happy with.
4 years 24 weeks
You definitely should not plan your own shower, just like you wouldn't plan your own wedding shower. A shower is a chance for people to "shower" the bride/mother-to-be with gifts. If you plan your own shower you are basically personally asking people to give you presents.
4 years 24 weeks
I'm no expert but regardless of whats going on in your sister's life, this is still a big time in your life and you deserve your moneny. Now it might not be that she will plan the whole thing, but maybe, just maybe, if you your mom and you other sister get to gether to plan it with her, it might help her to know that she is surrounded by family and that life does go on. i'm sure her being so far away from the rest of you guys kind of causes a disconnect, and intensifies her lonliness at this difficult stage in her life. I totally think you should be involved in planning the shower, just becasue i know if i dont plan my own nobody is going to do it for me. Just look at it as an opportunity to get closer with your sister right now
Beaner Beaner 4 years 24 weeks
If I were you, I'd talk to your Mom and other sister about it. Even though they aren't in FL, I'm sure they'd love to be a part of the planning. Then they could contact your other sister and see how much she'll be able to do. Of course, if you want to be part of the planning, there's no reason why you can't. It's 2010, and just about anything goes nowadays.