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Bridesmaid Dresses


Is it okay to shop around for a cheaper bridesmaid dress at a different bridal shop? Of course it will be the same style and color the bride picked, but I found the same dress significantly cheaper at another bridal shop.

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sweetpea1987 sweetpea1987 3 years 24 weeks
By the way, if the bride chose bridesmaid dressed from the same store she got her dress the bridesmaids usually get some kind of discount..I know my bridesmaids got $20 off their dresses for buying them at the same store!
sweetpea1987 sweetpea1987 3 years 24 weeks
I just had this same issue come up from one of my bridesmaids. She is getting her dress at the last minute and found out the bridal store won't be able to have the dress ordered and in the store in time before the wedding! She asked me if she could find a dress that "looked like" the dress I picked could she wear it..I was SHOCKED and said of course not!! So my advice to you, please make sure that it's the EXACT same dress that the bride picked!
phatE phatE 3 years 24 weeks
LOL, no.. i actually haven't been in your mind-set.. I have been a bridesmaid 6 times, and maid of honor 3 times and after those experiences when it came to my own wedding, i just made sure to budget for my bridesmaids dresses.
skigurl skigurl 3 years 24 weeks
okay 2 things: 1) i can only speak for myself but i'm far from a bridezilla and everyone has told me that. but you have a LOT to do and prepare for, so it's nice when your closest girlfriends are willing to help you and not hinder your planning. and 2) dresses should always be ordered together or you might not get the same color, and i don't think that this is being narcissistic to expect your girls to be in the same color? it IS the bride's day, and of course there are some things that are over the top to request, but i don't think asking them to buy a dress is out of hand, as phatE suggests of course as a bride i would want them to get the best deal they can, but in the end it's about the bride's choice and what they want for a color etc. obviously you've never been here before or you wouldn't be saying this
phatE phatE 3 years 24 weeks
"And trust me, if your bride is stressed or you feel she has a valid reason for wanting this particular store then I would suck it up and buy what she wants, because speaking as a bride, hard-to-please bridesmaids are absolutely terrible and ruin the planning of your special day, so just go with the flow! " why don't you re-read this from a less narcissistic view.. the "entitlement" of being the bride has gotten a little out of hand. brides should realize that while it is there day - it's just one day. life goes on for them, and the bridesmaids & to ask them to break the bank for you is completely tacky & disrespectful. what i was going to say until i read the last comment was that the person should check with the bride out of respect & also because there is a difference between the exact same dress, and a dress that's another brand, or style..i can totally see this becoming an issue if the person who found the dress isn't that detail-oriented & thinks it's the same when it's actually not. that being said, if it's the same dress, but cheaper the bride shouldn't have a problem with it AT ALL. if they do, they've lost sight of reality..
skigurl skigurl 3 years 24 weeks
If none of the girls have bought their dresses yet, I would mention it to the bride and see if she minds if you ALL go to the same (cheaper) store - HOWEVER if that is impossible, you should all be buying the dresses from the same store at the same time to ensure the dye lot is the same and that each dress is an identical shade. And trust me, if your bride is stressed or you feel she has a valid reason for wanting this particular store then I would suck it up and buy what she wants, because speaking as a bride, hard-to-please bridesmaids are absolutely terrible and ruin the planning of your special day, so just go with the flow!
3 years 24 weeks
If it's the exact same dress I don't see why it would matter. Every wedding I have been in, the bridesmaids didn't order from the same shop (some lived out of state, couldn't set up a time to meet an order, etc.). I would just run it by the bride to be sure.
3 years 24 weeks
I think it's totally okay, but you should also price out alterations at both shops to see what the dress is really going to cost you, all said and done.
chiheatherlove chiheatherlove 3 years 24 weeks
Would be okay to ask the Bride to get the other girls to go to another shop? Tell her about the pricing difference! Most brides are very sensitive to costs because they know how much every detail is going to cost them. But most brides (unless she's super laid-back) will want you to order it at the same time as the other girls because otherwise the dye lots come in differently and then the dresses look like they're from different lines.