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Could You Have Fun at a Wedding Without Alcohol?


I recently attended a friend's wedding in France. Both the bride and groom originally come from Turkey, so they followed many of the Turkish wedding traditions. On the Thursday before the wedding, they held a big party to prepare the bride, which felt almost like a wedding itself! There was a DJ, dancing, and food, but one thing was noticeably missing: alcohol. The hosts and many of the guests were Muslim, so it's not customary for them to to have alcohol at parties.

Without a glass of champagne, it definitely took an extra effort to mingle with strangers or get out on the dance floor, but I did appreciate the lack of hangover the next day.

The bride and groom did however provide alcohol at the wedding, where the Raki was flowing all night (for those who wanted it). Seemed like a good compromise to me!

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mystof mystof 4 years 43 weeks
Also... If you do have a wife / husband I hope that person cheats on you. Because you clearly do not ''deserve'' a marriage
mystof mystof 4 years 43 weeks
to the guy who said 'It's not ridiculous when people don't provide alcohol for their guests, that's tacky and rude for the guests to believe they "deserve" it. ... Of course they deserve it.. They go out of their way to show up for the COUPLES sake... They show up for support... And you saying ''It's tacky and rude for the guests to think they deserve it''.. In that case.. im going to say it's tacky and rude for the couple to think they deserve a room full of people to support the marriage. You just created a new type of attention wh*ring If i ever had a wedding.. and i had alot of people there for me. I would give them whatever they wanted and make sure they were comfortable.. After all.. They would be there for me.. Not the other way around.
amber512 amber512 5 years 9 weeks
If you can't have fun without alcohol, isn't that a sign that someone has a problem? =P
JessieSP JessieSP 5 years 9 weeks
Absolutely. You don't always need alcohol in order to have a good time, and I do mean at any event.
Giasbash6260 Giasbash6260 5 years 12 weeks
Sometimes when I go to weddings I wish I drank because they can be quite dull... but most of the time there is no need for booze because I just dance the night away!
danakscully64 danakscully64 5 years 12 weeks
It's not ridiculous when people don't provide alcohol for their guests, that's tacky and rude for the guests to believe they "deserve" it.
zeze zeze 5 years 13 weeks
my comment referenced those people I know who say they CAN'T have fun without alcohol. If you can't have fun without dessert then you probably have some type of eating disorder, so regardless of the guilt association...a need like that is not healthy. And I would go farther and say a dependency on alcohol at a social function for fun is worse than a dependency on dessert. Alcohol alters the mind and reality while desert does not have anywhere near those effects. So even if someone claims they CANT have fun without desert, it would not signal the same dependency as a need for alcohol (which many people seem to have who don't necessarily think of themselves as alcoholics). By the way I'm referring mostly to people I know in real life, not necessarily signaling anyone here. To see a slightly exaggerated depiction of what I mean, watch Cougar Town, "Turn This Car Around" - so many people are like this that it not funny at all!
danakscully64 danakscully64 5 years 13 weeks
I didn't say dessert. There is still a difference between enhancing and "needing" alcohol to have fun. I think for some, alcohol can make any function MORE fun, but if you can't have fun without alcohol, regardless of what type of wedding it is.... I think that's what the others are referring to. And sometimes, enhancing can be a bad thing if people misuse it (never been to a wedding like this, but that prevents some B&G's from choosing to have alcohol at their wedding).
AbbyHintz AbbyHintz 5 years 13 weeks
"Everyone" was only a blanket statement -- I was referring to the people who provided puritanical responses like "I think it's sad that people need alcohol", "you must be immature," "you must have a disease", etc. Dessert is really not a necessity. LIke desserts, hot chocolate, soda, fried appetizers, and many other things not essential to life, alcohol can enhance a function.
kea718 kea718 5 years 13 weeks
I'm not a fan of weddings... even less of a fan when it's my own family who's having the wedding... With that being said, alcohol helps weddings suck less. I wouldn't consider myself a big drinker and don't need alcohol in order to socialize and relax, wedding are the exception. I really haven't been to that many so maybe after I go to many more I'll feel different about them, until then, vodka cranberry please.
AmberHoney AmberHoney 5 years 13 weeks
I enjoy alcohol in many forms and places, but abhor drunks at any function. Agree 100% with HoneyBrown. Everything in moderation!
shaima shaima 5 years 13 weeks
@AbbyHintz: your comparison is really not relevant! As danakscully wrote " alcohol is not a necessity, food is"!!!
insanitypepper insanitypepper 5 years 13 weeks
I'm sure it's possible to have a fun wedding reception without alcohol. I've only been to one where it wasn't served, and that party was boring for a multitude of reasons. Booze would not have improved it one bit.
danakscully64 danakscully64 5 years 13 weeks
Everyone's answers? Mine too? Alcohol is not a necessity, food is. If it's a short wedding, it could be fun without food. If it was long, people get hungry. People don't have a growling stomach with no alcohol or have blood sugar issues/headaches without alcohol. The 2 don't compare.
AbbyHintz AbbyHintz 5 years 13 weeks
I think everyone's answers are sad and immature. Let's change it to something with which you have less guilt-association. How about food and dessert? Would you think a wedding was less fun if it didn't have food and dessert? Of course, a wedding wouldn't be as fun without food and dessert.
zeze zeze 5 years 13 weeks
I think it is kind of sad that people feel like they need alcohol in order to have fun. Being that dependent on something in order to enjoy yourself is like a disease.
pharm_chick pharm_chick 5 years 13 weeks
my family is muslim too so of course we dont have alcohol at our weddings or any parties, and like a pp said, the fun or not fun from the wedding never needs to stem from alcohol lol.
HoneyBrown1976 HoneyBrown1976 5 years 13 weeks
If you need alcohol to have fun, you're immature and in need of some help.
stellaRuby stellaRuby 5 years 13 weeks
I also hate weddings and I am not a big drinker, so it wouldn't really make a difference to me.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 5 years 13 weeks
I agree that if someone is a recovering alcoholic or their religion prohibits drinking, I would come planning not to drink and it would be fine. But if someone just cheaps out, I think I'd be annoyed with them and wouldn't have fun because of that.
danakscully64 danakscully64 5 years 13 weeks
Alcohol makes me tired and sometimes gives me a headache, so it's easy to go without. I don't need alcohol to have a good time. Even though I'm not the most social person around people I don't know, if there are friends there, I can have a good time. Weddings can go either way, I think it has less to do with the alcohol and more to do with the atmosphere. If I'm waiting around an hour for the B&G to show up to the reception, 2 hours after the ceremony to eat, or I don't know anyway, then I'm probably not having a good time, alcohol or not.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 5 years 13 weeks
I agree with ticamorena about hating the implication that alcohol = fun. What's the big deal if there's no booze? I suppose I should also note that I drink and I like to drink at social events but if they aren't serving I'm not going to die. Also, I think it would be tacky to take a flask to a wedding/reception if they weren't serving alcohol (especially for religious reasons).