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Is it Customary to Pay For The Flower Girls' Dresses?

We are having about 3 flower girls, all under the age of 5, and my best friend paid for HER flower girls' dresses. Is that something ALL brides do, or only if you want to?

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brat brat 9 years 6 weeks
I am not so sure at our wedding my wife made the flower girls dress but her family help with the cost of the dress. my wife also made her own dress.
krisua krisua 9 years 9 weeks
I have no idea but I'd vote for no.
SWEET-C9363 SWEET-C9363 9 years 9 weeks
i picked a cheape dress it was like 120 and then the mother of the child ended up having her MIL make the dress herself which im sure was way cheaper and she looked precious
uptowngirl1999 uptowngirl1999 9 years 9 weeks
I think it is at the discretion of the bride as to whether she pay for the dresses or not. I think most families pay for their own children's dresses. Unless there is a special situation--i.e. several children from the same family participating. Maybe you could offer to help pay for a percentage. Some people might just say, "Oh it's alright", but at least you would have offered. If the whole cost idea is an issues, there are other places to get cheaper dresses that are not bridal related stores. One wedding I went to, the flower girl had a cute floral print dress from a regular department store, if that! It worked for that particular situation because it was a rainbow wedding and she had all the colors on her dress. It's all up to you in my opinion. Do what you feel is right--and don't listen to what "experts" say about this. And by experts, I mean people who claim they are Miss/Mrs. Etiquette. i.e. Emily Post. It's 2007! Rules and expectations have changed since she was around. Ok, done with my rant about that. People/brides need to realize we are in a day and age where anything goes anymore. I know at my wedding I did some "odd" things, but it was successful and everyone liked it. Whether it was traditional or not.
wynter wynter 9 years 9 weeks
I don't know about flower girls, but I had to pay for the little tux when my son was a ring bearer.
colormesticky colormesticky 9 years 10 weeks
It's way easier to just go to Vegas and skip flower girls and bridesmaids altogether. Starting to look pretty tempting, no? ;)
Maggie-Mae Maggie-Mae 9 years 10 weeks
I think so, but it depends on whether you are paying for the bridesmaid dresses, too. If so, then yes. If no, then no.
vmruby vmruby 9 years 10 weeks
Just a suggestion but why don't you try looking at communion dresses?Some of the ones i've seen are absolutely gorgeous!! That's what i did, my nieces looked so beautiful, and no one could tell the difference, plus the cost was way less than the flower girl dresses i had originally picked.(245.00 each, which was absolutely ridiculous for a few hours of wear).I just couldn't see spending that kind of money so that's where i got the idea to go and look at the communion dresses and i'm so glad i did. Good Luck!!!
SwtAsSgar SwtAsSgar 9 years 10 weeks
My whole family (boyfriend, me & daughter) are in a wedding in April, which is to say the least VERY EXPENSIVE! When we went to pick out the flower girl dresses, the bride(my boyfriend's sister) picked a $185 dress which I was not at all happy about. My dress only cost $120! I complained about the price, but she insisted on it. At that point, I was expecting her to say she would pay for it. But, no. So, although it's not necessary because most parents (I think) expect to pay for the dress, it is a really nice gesture. Especially because the child will probably not be able to wear the dress again. Good Luck!
vmruby vmruby 9 years 10 weeks
I'm not sure if it's customary, but i paid for both my nieces dresses for my wedding........
lms lms 9 years 10 weeks
I think it is customarily the parents' responsiblity to pay for the dress. However, it may be different in each situation. At my wedding I paid for a junior bridesmaid's dress b/c her mom couldn't afford it. I paid for my daughter's flower girl dress for her uncle's wedding.