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Mommy Dearest –

I had a rather embarrassing incident happen last week and it still has me reeling. After feeding my baby at a local restaurant, I stood up to start burping her right at my table. Before I knew what was happening, my daughter had spit up all over the table behind us. To make matters worse, much of it had landed on a patron's suede jacket. I immediately apologized profusely and offered to pay the cleaning bill for the jacket, but the fellow diner could not be calmed down. She kept muttering that this is why kids should be kept out of restaurants (mind you it was a very family-friendly establishment). I kept apologizing, but there was nothing I could say to calm her down. Other than paying the cleaning bill, what else could I have done?

– Embarrassed Mommy

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Embarrassed Mommy –

While I understand your fellow patron's immediate response – no one wants to be covered in a baby's spit-up, particularly when it's not even their lil one – it sounds like she definitely overreacted to the situation. If the establishment really was as child-friendly as you say, then diners should expect tots of all ages to be there and for the noise and commotion that comes with that. Offering to pay the cleaning bill, cleaning up the actual mess, and, if their entire meal was ruined, possible paying for their meal should be sufficient enough to make up for the incident.

– Mommy Dearest

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phatE phatE 4 years 25 weeks
#16-seriously, it's nothing like going to the beach and getting sand on your shoes. I don't expect to be vomited on at restaurants, ever [unless it's my kid]. i don't think you should expect people to assume things like that.
nicoleggs nicoleggs 4 years 25 weeks
who would wear a suede jacket to a kid friendly restaurant?! that jacket was begging to get puked on! i kid i kid... seriously i think you handled it like a total pro. accidents happen. you apologize and do what you can to reconcile the situation and everyone goes on with their lives. the patron shouldn't be too surprised that something got on her clothes at a kid friendly restaurant. that's like wearing shoes on a sandy beach and expecting not to get sand in your shoe.
phatE phatE 4 years 25 weeks
"If the establishment really was as child-friendly as you say, then diners should expect tots of all ages to be there and for the noise and commotion that comes with that." I don't care if it's chuck-e-cheese, I don't ever expect to be projectile vomited on. So, family friendly or not really isn't the issue. If the mother of the baby was apologetic about it, and offered to clean it up, etc that's all she can do. If the other person was still mad, that's her deal, you can't change the reality of it - but you also can't blame her for being upset because that would totally suck. It sounds like a freak accident, I really have never heard of someone standing up at a restaurant to burp their child by their table and having their child's spit up hit someone else at another table.
MissSushi MissSushi 4 years 25 weeks
I think its strange that she stood up to burp a child in a resturaunt. Even the over the shoulder method doesn't require you to stand up, so extending the spit up range seems really odd. Obviously, she should have put the baby on her lap and used the chin hold burp, which i think tends to work a little better because you can tip them back and up a couple times which helps work the burp up. Anyway, yes, definitely the posters fault, and a problem she could/should have avoided. That being said, after making the mistake, i don't think there is a lot more she could have done. She had every right to be annoyed, who wants someone elses bodily fluids on them? I think its obnoxious to say things like she did, but thats me. I'd just move on and not dwell on it.
Mme-Hart Mme-Hart 4 years 25 weeks
I'd be pissed off, too. I think both of you are overreacting. The other woman should have calmed down and realized you did NOT do that on purpose and accepted your apology. I also think you should get over it and realize that you should have taken better care to not burp your child in the face of others. Come on...unless this was the first week of newbornhood, we all know babies reflex to burp can be disastrous at times. I think both of you need to suck it up, learn from it and move on. Being an honest mum who has taken her kids to restaurants since the 2nd day of DS life!
kurniakasih kurniakasih 4 years 25 weeks
I'd never have dreamed of burping my kid facing away from me and near other people since when he was a baby he was pretty unpredictable with his burp :) Then again, I never did bring my baby to a restaurant, even the kid-friendly one. And I completely understood the other person getting pissed off getting spat on (I know it's not fun even when it's your own child's!), but OP, you've tried your best by offering to pay for her dry cleaning and such, and you're apologetic so there's nothing else you can do other than that. It's not like you're doing it on purpose and stop reeling over what that person said, just next time try to be more careful where you burp your child and yes, sh1t happens. So take it easy.
Niami Niami 4 years 25 weeks
Stuff happens. When people get mad at parents for mistakes or normal occurrences they need to get a life. I saw a lady throw an elbow at a toddler when the little girl bumped against her once while on the train here in Boston. Of course this is Boston, so it could be that everyone is rude and that sort of thing is normal.
greta4 greta4 4 years 25 weeks
You know, crap happens. And more often than you are use too when you are a new mother. I feel so bad for people who can't understand having children around. A bit (or a lot) of spit up shouldn't be a big deal. Things can always be worse... plus she offered to pay! What, are you supposed to beg for forgiveness?
4 years 25 weeks
Ok, so sure, the mom probably should know better than to burp the baby facing others, however, I know that it can be very difficult to get your child up to burp forward facing at a booth in a restautant, and there's no telling if it's extrememly uncommon for her child to spit up/throw up. Not all kids do! I have 3 kids myself, and I had 1 that spit up constantly, 1 that never did, and 1 that was in the middle. I could see something similar happening to me with my baby who never spit up. When you're used to it not happening, it's Murphy's Law that when you're least prepared for it to happen, it will! I agree the other women probably overreacted, however, like someone else said, it's difficult to know without knowing the whole story!
runningesq runningesq 4 years 25 weeks
I can't help but wonder if this is the whole story...
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 4 years 25 weeks
Right on Starbucks, I hope they don't link this one.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 4 years 25 weeks
The other diner didn't have to be such a bitch, but seriously, this is 100% the mother's fault. I would NEVER burp a baby that close to someone! The closest I ever came to something like this, my retail store had a last-minute mid-day meeting and since I couldn't get a babysitter, my boss said I could bring my then-5 month old. My co-workers were passing her around and she burped up all over one of them. Luckily she was a mom of four and just laughed it off, but honestly that's just a risk you take when you hold a baby.
4 years 25 weeks
I think this mother was highly irresponsible burping her child knowing fully well that a BABY will spit up and/or throw up.
mstrauss mstrauss 4 years 25 weeks
I think what we can learn from this situation is to sit down while we burp our children in restaurants and keep their faces towards the tables we are sitting at. Standing up and having the baby over her shoulder could only lead to bad thing :) Although it seems like she didn't even get started with burping the kid and was just standing up. Yikes!
skigurl skigurl 4 years 25 weeks
i'd be pissed too, but if the mother was apologetic and honestly tried to rectify the situation, i'd be okay with it and i'd probably coo at their petite bebe if the mother wasn't apologetic and just treated it as though "oh well babies will be babies" then i'd be mad, but if she honestly felt bad and seemed genuine i would get over it...and i'd just dry clean my coat, oh well it sounds like the mother in this situation honestly felt very badly and the woman in question was being a bitch about it!!
4 years 25 weeks
I think the Mom, knowing that babies are prone to spitting up when burped should not have opened the door for this to have happened. Perhaps she should have burped the child towards her table rather than the table behind her.
starbucks2 starbucks2 4 years 25 weeks
Geez, I hope this won't get linked from TresSugar, imagine all the hatred for us self-centered, judgemental mothers... I think you did what you could. I'd be pissed too if I was spit upon by a strangers child but oh well, things happen. Especially if it was a family friendly restaurant. If you hate kids so much, don't go there! My dog jumped on a elderly lady in white pants the other day and she laughed it off and said she was foolish to wear white pants were running. Now that was cool (I was still embarrassed and offered to pay the cleaning, which she declined!)