Distance Dilemma and What Does it All Mean?
I am moving back to the state where my boyfriend is, not sure yet if I will be a two hours drive away or in the same general area as him yet. Anyway we have been having a tough time at the whole long distance thing. He was really hurt when I left and took it personally (a fact i only learned after the damage was done). I left to go to school and now that semester is over I'm onto a career. He had a rough childhood always being left behind so he clammed up he tries to protect himself from being hurt and shuts off communication and feeling. Anyway we both hate the phone so long distance isn't good for us, but I am mending fences, when I visited him recently I told him he couldn't keep ignoring me I wanted it to work but I needed his help and he agreed and said he loved me and wanted me to come back and it would be great. So we had an amazing weekend together and I left feeling really good. That was about 2 weeks ago give or take and hes back to ignoring again, I only have a month until I am back in his state, doing my own thing and super happy about having a career and hoping to work on things. In the meantime I can't help but thinking that he is just waiting for me to dump him, he gives really confusing messages on what he wants to happen and I feel like I should just tell him I'm over it and see him when I see him. He has told me he wants to raise things together and live together again, but he also said I am more invested than he is and e wont be driving back and forth if I live far away. He is my best friend so I feel like I can tell him anything but I also don't want to call it quits forever. He said he only feels this ways because of the distance and that I really hurt him but I wonder if there is anyway to get him back to his sweet sensitive self. What do I do?