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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months and there is one thing he does that really bothers me. Every time he starts to talk about a woman he knows, whether it's through work or a mutual friend, he ends with "I think she has a crush on me." This has happened on numerous occasions and he says it every time unless he's talking about a family member. I am not a very jealous person by nature, and I'm fine with him having female friends, but he insists that every girl he meets has a crush on him. I'm starting to get really irritated by it. I usually laugh it off and change the subject but now I'm starting to wonder if I'm dating a jerk. Am I overreacting? What do you think?

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blondeyy blondeyy 6 years 29 weeks
This post is from almost ONE YEAR ago...... I don't think they are still checking the comments.
fun2beyou fun2beyou 6 years 29 weeks
You can copy or dump him. Is not easy to put up with their crap. No matter what you do for him. He will continue to burn you. This is base on my experience. I have no clue about this. I thought, is not that important but it does makes me feel stupid. My husband continuously doing this to me. I already knew about this which I thought he is going to knock it off before he touch my ego. I do almost everything for him when I can. I even clean his car twice or three times a month because I love doing it for him. That's how much I love my guy. I don't flirt, no male friends, and not even talking about men with him. Now, I'm kinda make him feel unwanted because I even make fun of what he says. I told him that he should convert to an Islam, so he can marry them. However, just ignore him or make fun of it. Is not worth to get angry over witch ideas. I've been in your shoes.
dikke-kus dikke-kus 6 years 44 weeks
Nice. Real nice. I think he has the manners of a goat and the heart of a pig. If someone did that to me I would give him a warning. Obviously he doesn't seem concerned with your feelings, or he's just too stupid to know any better. You could keep your cool, but be nasty. Everytime he mentions a so called crush, gently smile, then tell him, you know the feeling. Anyway that last girl he mentioned, you heard she's only into money and he just doesn't have enough. Or maybe you heard she has herpes. Be creative. After that maybe he'll get the drift and come up with something else to talk about. Like you maybe.
bchicgrl bchicgrl 7 years 15 weeks
That is definitely a jerky thing to do, he apparently has no consideration for your feelings. Next time he says that, tell him if he has all these girls crushing on him then he doesn't need you in his life and walk away.
sparklestar sparklestar 7 years 15 weeks
You must be pretty young although I dated a guy who is turning 26 soon and he used to do this ! It's just really immature and silly. Do what luisa said - pat him on the arm and be like "yeah, I'm sure she does sweetie." I wouldn't tolerate him though, really. You can do better.
macchiatolove macchiatolove 7 years 15 weeks
haha, some of these comments were so funny. I would def. turn it around on him, or make it into a joke. In fact, whenever he mentions any girl, YOU could say 'OMG! I bet she has a crush on you!' before he gets a chance to say it. Maybe he'll figure it out and tone it down. It's funny how people don't realise that it's making them look LESS attractive, not more!
MissKris02 MissKris02 7 years 15 weeks
That would really annoy me. Either he is so full of himself that he actually believes it or he is looking for a reaction out of you that will boost his ego.
zabrow zabrow 7 years 15 weeks
he sounds insecure to me. i'd just ignore the comments & not acknowledge them & eventually they'll (or he'll) go away.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years 15 weeks
He does sound like a jerk.
Jude-C Jude-C 7 years 15 weeks
That's annoying. He's either doing it on purpose to get your reaction, or he's got a really big ego.
facin8me facin8me 7 years 15 weeks
He's either insecure or a d-bag. Help him work on his self-esteem if it's the former, dump his a** if it's the latter.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 7 years 15 weeks
Sounds like a real egotist. Give him a taste of his own medicine and every time you talk about a guy end it with "I think he has a crush on me"
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years 15 weeks
He sounds like he thinks he's gods gift to women.
psterling psterling 7 years 15 weeks
he sounds insecure. If you make a point of telling him how desirable he is to you I bet he'd let it go.
austerity austerity 7 years 15 weeks
I totally agree (and cracked up at) cheekyredhead's comment. As well as luisa's comment. My ex used to talk about his 'best friend' a lot. In fact, get this, he used to constantly tell me how he thought she was the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. As well as a brilliant girl. Now, he may have meant it, but everytime he said that, I caught him glancing sideways at me to see my reaction. That's when I realized he was most likely just trying to annoy me or trying to get me jealous. Giving it back is the best thing to do in this situation. I just went on and on about this college hero that I once (really) did have a serious crush on, how he was incredibly handsome, ambitious and everything a man should be. And how he tried to flirt with me once, but that I didn't respond because I was too shy (and this was the truth). I went on to talk about him as 'my idea of the ideal man' and that nobody could even come close to this guy. Ouch. He toned it down after that.
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 7 years 15 weeks
My ex-boyfriend does this all the time! (We're still friends). For him, he is just all-around arrogant, and he admits that it's not likely *all* of them like him. I don't think that necessarily makes him a douche or insecure? Perhaps just arrogant.
Myst Myst 7 years 15 weeks
Smells like Jerk chicken to me. Tell your man to get over himself and not everyone woman he meets wants him. That should knock him down a peg or two
CYL CYL 7 years 15 weeks
I'd tell him "that's great why don't you date her...I am going to date Paulo from my work since I think he has a crush on me too. Cuz you know he totally looked at me when we were in line getting coffee". Honestly whenever men pull shit like that I just call them on their bullshit and don't give them the response they want. Then they stop.
laura_j laura_j 7 years 15 weeks
i definitely agree with the advice saying you should mimick it. that will solve the issue.. either he gets it, and realizes he sounds like a jackass, or he doesnt get it, and you can tell the ego inflating douche to hit the bricks.
Marci Marci 7 years 15 weeks
He sounds insecure and also like he's looking for some kind of reaction from you. I'd humor him also as others have suggested and see if that can break him of this habit. But I'd find it annoying if it went on forever.
lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 7 years 15 weeks
I think he is trying to beef himself up. making you think how awesome he is. it is kinda pathetic. he sounds insecure. but i think its more common than you think he just doesnt know how else to make him seem better.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 7 years 16 weeks
Seems to be quite into himself.
dm8bri dm8bri 7 years 17 weeks
Dump him.
Janine22 Janine22 7 years 17 weeks
Either that, or just call him on it and say 'why do you think everyone is in love with you? Do you have a really inflated sense of your self, or what!?'