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Half Naked- How Much is Too Much?


I don't have to tell you- half naked women are everywhere. You name it, someone has stuck a picture of a half naked woman on it. TV, movies, billboards, magazines in the grocery store check-out, ads on the side of your Internet page. The Disney Princesses even wear low-cut dresses.
 
Not only is my four year old exposed to female sexuality in the ways I listed above, but she and I like to look at fashion slide-shows together. And designers now-a-days, they like women to have their bodies showing: see through shirts, pasties, exposed bras and thongs. When she's on the computer with me and a half naked woman pops up, I click past it as quickly as possible, but she sees it, and usually says something like, "Mommy! I see that lady's boobies! That silly lady should not show her boobies!"  To which I reply, "You're right, sweetie, that silly lady shouldn't show her boobies!"
 
I can't hide our culture's exploitation of female sexuality from her. I could stop surfing the net and looking at slide shows with her, but the way I figure, she's already seen it, right? If she's not seeing it with me, she's seeing it somewhere else. She'll start school next fall, and if kids are still as bad as they were when I was growing up, I know she'll learn about it there. And if I'm going out and I'm dressing sexy, I'll put a big t-shirt on over whatever I'm wearing and take it off in the car, so at least she doesn't see me doing it.
 
In some ways, I think it's better that she's been exposed to sexuality around me, because she has seen me react openly and calmly (but disinterestedly) toward it. Maybe that will make it easier for her to open up to me about this sort of thing when she's a teen.
 
So my question is: how much is too much? Is a bikini worse than a bra? Am I doing irreparable harm to her by letting her catch an occasional glimpse of exposed nipple? Is there even a way, in this day and age, to shelter her from it? What do you think?

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Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 4 years 34 weeks
iphonegirl- hilarious! Venus, I'm glad you agree. Children ALWAYS make a big deal about something after YOU make a big deal out of it. It's even true about getting hurt- if you run over and ask if they're okay, they'll scream. But if you stay quiet and wait to see how they react, 90% they shake it off. Brought up in France, Venus, how fortunate. I LOVE all things French... I've never been there, but I think I might want to move there someday.
iphonegirl iphonegirl 4 years 34 weeks
Depends on the body :)
Venus1 Venus1 4 years 34 weeks
I was brought up in France by naturist parents. Bodies were no big deal I would suggest the same approach,