Tough family situation
Hello girls,
I am caught in a very bad situation with my boyfriend's family, especially the mother and I have no idea what to do.....
I live with him and his family for more than 2 months now(his married sister lives here as well with her husband and so does his 20 year old sister)....Initially I was supposed to get my own place and not live with them. but, my boyfriend insisted that it was no big deal and that they would grow to love me and all that...and that he wanted me near him. They have a huge mansion and an elevator that stops in all the different floors in the house so I assumed we would get all the privacy in the world here and be very happy....Wrong.
I discovered shortly after moving in here that his mother is obsessed with him. She treats him like he is 10 and as if she is my rival.
No matter what good I do, she makes me seem to be a horrible person and does everything she can to make me feel uncomfortable.
She is always snooping around our room going through stuff, we even need to hide our clothing bills if we buy something, especially if he buys ME something. She took an H&M bill last week....,She goes around saying I took her son, says the most horrible things about me and my family, told him to leave me and that I'm only here for the money and he told she told him she even got into my email and read everything! His father is also not on my side and does everything his wicked wife tells him to do or say.....and the worst thing is that he is totally dependent on them financially since they invested millions in his company.....and they use this against him....basically if he and I move out, we have nothing unless he finds a new job or I pay for everything.....
He is currently out of the country on a business trip and will be back a week from now, you can imagine my anguish at being stuck here with them while he is away....His sisters are ok, but I don't trust them, they and the son in law also have a long abusive, violent history with the mother and they probably see me as an additional source of drama in this unhappy house....His mother told me a few days ago that she wants me to get my own place and leave her home once I find work and that her son can't follow me! That he is not going anywhere....and he is 27 years old!!
I just said yes to her threats so she wouldnt drive me insane and I called him and told him everything she told me and he promised me I would not go anywhere without him and that he would declare war on them once he comes back and that his mom will have many surprises coming her way.
You see, he and I are very happy together and love each other very much, we even talk about marriage...but I think of it more remotely these days as these problems grow bigger every day...I'm so afraid they will ruin my life and do everything to keep us apart...the fact that he loves me so much plays against me here....it bothers them that he is so in love and willing to fight them for me. Every day here until his return is pure torture and I am literally counting the days.
My dilemma is the following....will he choose the money and the company or follow me and cause world war 3? Can we survive this or should I just walk away and let him be and have my heart broken...Im afraid the stress and worry will tear us apart and thats exactly what his mother wants. I fear he will not make the right decisions and break my heart upon his return....he insists he will not let me leave or lose each other.....
Is there a solution to all this or am I bound to lose him because of money and power?
No one has ever treated me as amazing as he does and I was sure I found my soulmate....his parents just dont want me for him.....they control everything and they want to control us as well and our relationship....we are constantly watched and questioned.....
I am in a bad bad situation and I need help.....I'm living my worst nightmare....it is affecting my appetite, my life, my thoughts, my emotions and Iam really not doing well.....
Please help girls! My heart is broken and I am being mistreated by a woman to whom I did nothing wrong.....the only thing I am guilty of is loving him......
Tough family situation
Hello girls,
I am caught in a very bad situation with my boyfriend's family, especially the mother and I have no idea what to do.....
I live with him and his family for more than 2 months now(his married sister lives here as well with her husband and so does his 20 year old sister)....Initially I was supposed to get my own place and not live with them. but, my boyfriend insisted that it was no big deal and that they would grow to love me and all that...and that he wanted me near him. They have a huge mansion and an elevator that stops in all the different floors in the house so I assumed we would get all the privacy in the world here and be very happy....Wrong.
I discovered shortly after moving in here that his mother is obsessed with him. She treats him like he is 10 and as if she is my rival.
No matter what good I do, she makes me seem to be a horrible person and does everything she can to make me feel uncomfortable.
She is always snooping around our room going through stuff, we even need to hide our clothing bills if we buy something, especially if he buys ME something. She took an H&M bill last week....,She goes around saying I took her son, says the most horrible things about me and my family, told him to leave me and that I'm only here for the money and he told she told him she even got into my email and read everything! His father is also not on my side and does everything his wicked wife tells him to do or say.....and the worst thing is that he is totally dependent on them financially since they invested millions in his company.....and they use this against him....basically if he and I move out, we have nothing unless he finds a new job or I pay for everything.....
He is currently out of the country on a business trip and will be back a week from now, you can imagine my anguish at being stuck here with them while he is away....His sisters are ok, but I don't trust them, they and the son in law also have a long abusive, violent history with the mother and they probably see me as an additional source of drama in this unhappy house....His mother told me a few days ago that she wants me to get my own place and leave her home once I find work and that her son can't follow me! That he is not going anywhere....and he is 27 years old!!
I just said yes to her threats so she wouldnt drive me insane and I called him and told him everything she told me and he promised me I would not go anywhere without him and that he would declare war on them once he comes back and that his mom will have many surprises coming her way.
You see, he and I are very happy together and love each other very much, we even talk about marriage...but I think of it more remotely these days as these problems grow bigger every day...I'm so afraid they will ruin my life and do everything to keep us apart...the fact that he loves me so much plays against me here....it bothers them that he is so in love and willing to fight them for me. Every day here until his return is pure torture and I am literally counting the days.
My dilemma is the following....will he choose the money and the company or follow me and cause world war 3? Can we survive this or should I just walk away and let him be and have my heart broken...Im afraid the stress and worry will tear us apart and thats exactly what his mother wants. I fear he will not make the right decisions and break my heart upon his return....he insists he will not let me leave or lose each other.....
Is there a solution to all this or am I bound to lose him because of money and power?
No one has ever treated me as amazing as he does and I was sure I found my soulmate....his parents just dont want me for him.....they control everything and they want to control us as well and our relationship....we are constantly watched and questioned.....
I am in a bad bad situation and I need help.....I'm living my worst nightmare....it is affecting my appetite, my life, my thoughts, my emotions and Iam really not doing well.....
Please help girls! My heart is broken and I am being mistreated by a woman to whom I did nothing wrong.....the only thing I am guilty of is loving him......
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