Help!


I am going crazy here...my daughter is 10 this week,very creative and funny,I guess bright would be the word but the last 2 years have been a nightmare for everyone,first off she has trouble sleeping thru the night and can't sit still unless engaged in something she is interested in,forgetting homework almost everyday,not bringing home books for homework,papers everywhere in her desk(unorganized),at home we tell her to do something and the next minute she's doing something else entirely.Is this my fault?Her pediatrician put her on several types of medicine but didn't help very much but made her lose so much weight,I took her off the meds myself!I would like anyone going thru the same thing or that could help shed some light on this to please do!
Desperate Mother,

spirit35 spirit35 5 years 41 weeks
Yes please do,I'm so happy for your daughter.It sounds like you have your hands full(bless you).I will message you,thanks. ...tammy
christina78 christina78 5 years 41 weeks
Girls typically do not do well in Math or Science. I have 3 childern ages 10, 9 and 4 1/2. I think I will need to keep being creative or else we will have a long hard struggle since the younger siblings like to follow the lead of the oldest ones. My 9 year old daughter is brilliant. She is in 3rd grade reading at a 7th grade level and excels at everything she does. She has never gotten lower than a B on her report cards. She just failed a math test last week and was distraught over it but I told her its only one test and if we study together and she does what she can to do better, she can continue to do well. My son says he hates school too. Sometimes you have to just let them say it, but still remind them about art, music, ect. My thing is I email their teachers now and then for ideas and to check up on them. I work 9-10 hour days 5-6 days a week so I cant always go to the school and see them one on one. If you like, I can fax or email some of the activities we had given to us, she might like them! Don't hesitate to email me or message me. Moms need all the help they can get, and who couldnt use a friend, too! :) XO CHRISTINA
spirit35 spirit35 5 years 41 weeks
Thank you Martini Lush,you are such a sweetheart,it helps just to know people care. ...tammy
spirit35 spirit35 5 years 41 weeks
Oh my god...this sounds just like Maia,she draws and writes little stories constantly and her doctor did say once that maybe she's just bored,I know she says she hates school constantly but I thought it was because of her problems in math.This has really shed some light.Thank you,thank you Christina! ...tammy
christina78 christina78 5 years 41 weeks
It's not you so please don't blame yourself. My son is also 10 and he has been the same way for a couple years as well. In class he will also Lean his chair back on the back two legs balancing on them for hours (he never falls, lol). The truth is, yes, the kids are smart, they just aren't truly interested in what they are learning. You really have to make learning fun for them. At my children's school last week they had an event for students and their families, Social Studies night. My son complains to me the whole way that he doesn't want to go back to school because he had such a long day (never mind i was at work for 9 hours and am racing with 3 kids to their school function when I would rather be at home relaxing but I prefer to foster their education...). So we get there and immediately each child (even my 4yr old) gets a coupon for a free tony Roma's kids meal. Nice! Then we sit down as my daughters teach starts the night, there were so many fun learning activities, by the end of the night my son said he was so glad he came and they each took a booklet home that was filled with pages of fun learning activities. He said that if learning was that much fun all the time, school would be his favorite place. So I guess what I am saying is that for creative children, you yourself have to get creative. My son draws all day and night and writes stories just as much. So we incorporate his weekly spelling words into his stories that he writes so he can become a better speller and writer, taking him out of the box. Drawing math problems and writing stories about them also helps too. If you like, I could send you some of the sheets we received from their school for you all the try at home! I can mail or fax them, just let me know! XO CHRISTINA
MartiniLush MartiniLush 5 years 41 weeks
Spirit35, I have really very little experience with ADHD kids, so I am not sure what advice to give you. Have you tried different doctors/therapies/drugs? So often, we mothers take it all on and blame ourselves when something goes "wrong" with our kids, please don't do that. This sounds like it is a symptom of her ADHD, which isn't your fault at all! I will be praying for your family for strength and direction. Please let me know how it is going. Although I am not much help, if you just need to vent I am here - PM me if you need to! :hug: