Help with Long Distance
I could use some advise. I've been dating my boyfriend for about 4 years now, 3 of those years long distance. We live in separate states, and he is working and I am finishing up graduate school. The past year, we have discussed moving in together after I graduate so that we can finally live in the same place. I was so excited about it- but I'm graduating in the summer and he recently told me he wasn't sure that he was ready to move in together yet (which partly, I think, has to do with the fact the he lives with his brother and doesn't want to "kick him out"). Career wise, it makes since for us to live in his state- since he has a good job and I am just getting started. However, he asked me to move to be with him- and not live together. Since he is the only person I would know in that state, and I'm not about to room with a complete stranger, it suggests that I move to him for his career AND live by myself. I told him absolutely not- we need to compromise. I told him he's going to need to decide what's more important to him- his career, or us not living together. I basically gave him an ultimatum, but it's very scary because it's all coming up so fast. My plan is to have my own back-up plan, but trust me, he is a really great guy (even though I'm sure this doesnt put him in his best light), and we both want our relationship to work out. Any ideas or thoughts?