How Do You Keep the Lovey Dovey Going?


For all of you have children, this question is for you. How do you manage to keep the spark, be lovey dovey, etc. after you have had a child? I know date night is a biggy. Just looking to see what you all do. :bananana:

kiwitwist kiwitwist 6 years 32 weeks
Very good tips! Thanks!
suebree96 suebree96 6 years 32 weeks
Those are great tips hisredeemed :)
ALSW ALSW 6 years 32 weeks
Great suggestions!
hisredeemed hisredeemed 6 years 32 weeks
When you have kids it's a matter of organization and consistency. I taught my kids from the womb about 'Mommy-Time' and 'Mommy and Daddy-Time'. I never felt guilty and my kids never saw me feel guilty. I worked hard in and outside the home. I had nothing to feel guilty about. Make a plan. Yes, to date night but don't make the expectation ridiculously high! Be flexible. 1. Get a regular sitter or family member for the same time each week. 2. Enlist hubby to help. 3. Each write down a list of 10 things you'd like to do (Time chunks of 3-4 hours)Alternate drawing from a hat each week. 4. Be FIERCELY protective of this time. (If you don't make each other happy someone else will!!) 5. Once every three months plan for a BIG date night. (Perhaps an overnight or watching the sunrise somewhere cool) 6. If all else fails..put the kids to bed and go steam the windows in the car. (Make sure the neighbors can't see!) Think teenager!! Get hot, heavy and dirty!
LaurenG22 LaurenG22 6 years 33 weeks
awwwww you guys had such a nice cute conversation!!! I am sorry I missed it :) my hubby and I were practicing ;) hahahahaha :ROTFL: I crack myself up :) I LOVED reading all of your responses, nonetheless, and really will think about it in the future!!! THANKS LADIES!
suebree96 suebree96 6 years 33 weeks
:HUG: back at you all!!! Sandy :ROTFL: you faint at me secretly wishing we had one more :ROTFL: Eight would be a perfectly even number :ROTFL: Nah! I think 7 is the perfect number for us, besides no more buns in this oven, tubes tied, thankfully, but truth be told I miss it immensely. There is nothing that compares to the first time you feel the baby move in your tummy, or feeling it hiccup inside you, or seeing them in ultrasound. I miss it so much sometimes. So does Scott. Every time we go out and see a little newborn, we always say, don't you wish we could have another? I know it's crazy , but it is true. I wish you all who are considering a baby lots of luck. It, as Sandy put it, is the best ride ever. Gosh, I remember when Sandy had my niece. I felt like she was mine. I loved her that much and still do. All my nieces and nephews. But Sandy's kids even more, and my brothers boys. Babies are such a blessing. I can't even describe whatit feels like the first time you make your baby giggle or smile. It always made me so happy I would almost cry.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 6 years 33 weeks
:hug:
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
I'm with you, books! :)
books-and-shoes books-and-shoes 6 years 33 weeks
Aww, I'm feeling like a group hug! LOL
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
Gah! I wanna go home and through out the BC tonight! Sadly I don't think that's in the cards, but you girls make me want babies even more! (And I didn't think that was possible...)
kiwitwist kiwitwist 6 years 33 weeks
Thanks Books, I will tell her. Never heard of it.
JustPlainJane JustPlainJane 6 years 33 weeks
I third that sentiment, I love this group too, I love reading everybody's stories, and it's exciting when someone decides to have a baby, good luck to you girls, it's def. the best ride of my life *Thank you. My real name... is plain... Jane Jones. (Alice - Closer)
books-and-shoes books-and-shoes 6 years 33 weeks
Mirena! 5 years, no babies, and not as permanent as getting the tubes tied!
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
And i love this group too! I love that I can ask whatever question is on my mind and get honest answers!
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
I'd be afraid of that too! I mean, who knows what the future could hold?
kiwitwist kiwitwist 6 years 33 weeks
lol.. I love this little group. My girlfriend just turned 30 and was going to get her tubes tied but changed her mind last minute. She is soo afraid of going through with it and then wanting another.
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
So more time to decide! :)
books-and-shoes books-and-shoes 6 years 33 weeks
Haha JPJ! I can admit that sometimes I pretty curious what other combination of ourselves can we create!
books-and-shoes books-and-shoes 6 years 33 weeks
I think so. :)
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
Still plenty of time, right, Books?
books-and-shoes books-and-shoes 6 years 33 weeks
I haven't decided yet ALSW. Me and Mr. Books are back and forth with it. Sometimes he desperately wants another one while I'm so not ready for another one. Then I'll be the one to wistfully bring up more children and he'll be vehemently shaking his head no. We're good for now but I'm not totally ruling out the future.
JustPlainJane JustPlainJane 6 years 33 weeks
That's a wonderful thing about having a baby is seeing your husband and yourself in one little person, pretty neat, although babies are wonderful whether their biologically yours or not, my hubby is adopted, and I think just seeing him w/a baby makes me smile, whether it's ours or not *Thank you. My real name... is plain... Jane Jones. (Alice - Closer)
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
My sister-in-law is one of 13 kids. Now THAT is crazy!
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
I hope there's no clutter under the beds then!
books-and-shoes books-and-shoes 6 years 33 weeks
5 kids is a lot! Hubby is the oldest of 5 and we've been together since high school, so I know the daily hecticness (is that a word?) in that house! :notworthy: Sue!