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How to Silence Co-Worker in Bridezilla Mode


Dear Savvy,
One of my co-workers is planning her wedding and she won't stop talking about it in the office. She sits in the cubicle next to mine and I swear she is on the phone with vendors and her mom half of the day. When she's not using work time to plan, she's sticking her head above the divider and asking me for advice or sharing her latest ideas. I got married three years ago and know how exciting, fun and busy it all is (and how hard it is to schedule calls during work hours since florists aren't open after office hours), but I frankly can't have her distracting me. I have work I need to get done. How do I tell her she's being distracting without being a buzz kill?

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lickety-split lickety-split 3 years 16 weeks
Do NOT talk to her supervisor unless you want to get her in trouble and start WW3 at work. How about saying something like "oh it sounds so exciting! I can't wait to hear all the details. But I'm SLAMMED this week. Email your latest pix/ideas so I can look at them tonight.". Or suggesting going to lunch, or out after work for a drink.
reynolda reynolda 3 years 16 weeks
Wow. This would get you fired in my workplace. I'd definitely talk to her supervisor - with a whole country full of unemployed people, anyone who would flagrantly waste company time and resources (yes, even for wedding planning) is expendable. She should know better!
EvieJ EvieJ 3 years 16 weeks
Just tell her. I think instead of quietly seething to the point you explode, you need to set some boundaries - in a polite way, of course! You know that planning a wedding is exciting, time-consuming, and takes over your life so you use that. Something along the lines of "Look, I know you're really excited, etc., but I am really trying to get XYZ worked on right now. Maybe we could go to lunch and you can fill me in?" As far as her spending all her time on the phone, so long as she's getting her work done, does it matter? If she's not keeping up, your boss will know. And if it's really bothering you that she's on the phone with vendors all day, drop a word in your boss's ear.
bengalspice bengalspice 4 years 17 weeks
This Chatty Bride sounds like me ... except my conversations to vendors and my mother were mostly me screaming at them to stop calling and harassing me at work.