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No I WON'T do That Just Because We're Engaged!!!!

Holy Crap!!

I have to tell you this, but before I start, let me say that I LOVE my Gramma more than triple chocolate mousse (that's saying a lot for me :) ).

So, I was talking to my Gram last night and we were chatting about the future wedding and I couldn't believe what she said.

"So, now that you're engaged, are you going to cook him meat?"

My head just about exploded and I said "Gram, I'm a VEGETARIAN, remember?"

"Yeah, but that doesn't mean he has to be too. You've got to cook your man meat!"

"If he wants it, he can cook for himself, Gramma," I said in a strong Women's Rights kind of way."

"I hope he doesn't leave you for a meat-cooking wife."


I didn't want to argue with her. Times have changed and my honey and I both know that our relationship is built on equality. Sure, we help each other out, and do things for each other, but no one is expected to do anything just because of their gender.

Just because he's a guy doesn't mean he has to plow our driveway or mow the lawn. And just because I'm a girl doesn't mean that I have to stay home and take care of the kids (when we have them) and do all the laundry.

I guess my Gram will never understand that.

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colormesticky colormesticky 9 years 9 weeks
lol snowday, sometimes I wish times hadn't changed, because if I were staying at home all day you can bet I'd be sleeping in. :D
workerbee workerbee 9 years 9 weeks
That's great!! "Meat cooking wife!!" I wake every morning with the desire to save and savor the world... this makes my day difficult to plan.
snowdaytoday snowdaytoday 9 years 9 weeks
Colormesticky - that's so funny about the cereal. I grew up with a dad that couldn't warm up tea, or get himself a fork My mom waited on him hand and foot - she liked it, and so did he. Her mom (my gram) probably told her that that's what her "job" was - to keep her man happy. I am a vegetarian and have been for 17 years. I don't agree with mass producing animals for meat, so I won't eat it or cook it. I'd be vegan if I could, but for health reasons I had to sart eating eggs and dairy (which I buy from local farmers). My man DOES understand and support my views and he totally cooks meat and chicken and fish when he wants it. This issue is mostly with my gram. I thought it was absurd what she said - because I am so PRO-Equality when it comes to men and women. Why should I be the one doing all the cooking and cleaning? I have a full-time job too, not like how it was back then. If I stayed home all day - then yes - I'd do all that stuff, but the way the world is, marriage is a partnership. We both work. We both take care of each other. And we both take care of our home. Down the road, we'll both take care of our kids too. I am SO GLAD times have changed.
Beaner Beaner 9 years 9 weeks
Grams are so cute. Don't be mad at her. That's just how she grew up. I'm a vegetarian too and know how you feel. I don't think you should have to compromise your values for anyone!
colormesticky colormesticky 9 years 9 weeks
*shrug* I'd just cook him the meat, since I'm already hogging the kitchen cooking everything else. I wouldn't make him cook for himself, because he'd just be in my way. And, at least for me, it has nothing to do with gender. It's about me knowing how to cook and my husband being excited he can make cereal.
uptowngirl1999 uptowngirl1999 9 years 9 weeks
Rock on girl! My husband understands that I am turning semi-vegetarian (for health reasons), but he also knows I'm not going to deprive him of the foods he wants to eat. We both understand this. As long as you two know what's going on in your own lives, just let your grandma ramble on and on. I had to deal with a racist grandma....It all works out in the end. And it's like your said, times HAVE changed and they are still living in a time period they grew up in.
Jinx Jinx 9 years 9 weeks
lol @ "I hope he doesn't leave you for a meat cooking wife". Sounds like you tried to be patient, Gramma's sometimes! I imagine your fiance knows you are a vegetarian and will not cook meat, and he still proposed. I agree, he should be quite capable of cooking himself a steak if he chooses. Good point about gender, I don't know anything about fixing my car, but a man should because he's a man? How is that fair?! ------------------------------------------------------ "If men could only know each other, they would neither idolize nor hate" Elbert Hubbard
mrsjacki mrsjacki 9 years 9 weeks
:) we gotta love our Grandmas! I do know from experience, a little compromising goes along way sometimes:) Jacki _____________________________________________________________ Proud of my Marine!!!
redegg redegg 9 years 9 weeks
I guess she was saying are you only going to cook him what you eat or would you cook him what he eats? If you violently oppose meat being eaten by anyone then not cooking him meat makes sense, if you're not cooking it for him just because that's not what you eat then that would seem a tad silly and maybe selfish. I don't know your views but maybe that's where she is coming from.