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I am so lazy, and I don't know what to do.

Well, I am new I just joined so I will tell you a bit about myself first. My name is Cristal, I'm 24, and I live in Clarksville, TN 15 mins away from Ft. Campbell Ky. I was in the army and served in operation iraqi freedom. I got out of the army almost 4 years ago. When I came home from Iraq in Jan '04, I weighed a hundred pounds and was in the best shape of my life. I'm 5'3, so that was a little skinny for me, but I could actually run a couple of miles without feeling like giving up if I wanted to. Fast forward a little over three years and now I weigh 185 lbs approx. I am so lazy and I have ABSOLUTELY NO MOTIVATION to get into shape. I really do not like how I am living, I eat all the time, I am always depressed and it is just this terrible cycle. I wake up, sometimes eat breakfast, go to work, eat lunch, come home eat another meal, have maybe 2 snacks, have a large dinner, have dessert and go to bed. Not to mention I smoke half a pack of cigarettes a day. I do have a gym membership, and this part I find disgusting. I have that membership and I tell my boyfriend that I go like maybe 3 times a week, and I haven't gone at all since I got it, like 2 months ago. I need to get out of this rut and I don't know how. I really don't want a pity party, but I am completely lost. I feel like I will never lose the weight and I will never be in shape and sexy like I used to be. My ideal weight is about 115-120, because I was happy when I was that weight, and I felt good about myself and actually wanted to have sex, that hasnt happened for about 2 months now. I am always cranky, never in a good mood. I feel like I am trapped. What should I do?

luckykarma luckykarma 8 years 30 weeks
Hey guys, I have yet to get that motivation that I need, and although everything else is going great in my life, i.e. I have a great brain cause I aced all my classes last quarter, I cannot stop letting food be my happy place. I am worried cause its getting cold out and that means Cristal hibernates and eats more. I was skinnier when I was single, and I am sure that factors into the weight I have gained. When I got back together with my ex-husband (not a bad thing either, but thats a long story, a heartwarming one :) ) seeing as how I have gained about ohhhhh 35 pounds since we got back together after 3 years. I feel like its hopeless...I don't want pity, but thank you for sharing your stories with me. Sometimes I feel like I am alone.
nurdburd13 nurdburd13 8 years 32 weeks
so, how's it going? have you found any motivation yet? personally i know how hard it is to find that motivation. i have discovered a new trick that doesn't have anything to do w/ motivation but it passes time in the gym quickly. i print out ebooks. the free ones. they are mostly classics like jane austen or alice in wonderland. you can also print (but you have to buy) books from ellora's cave (erotica) or they have a normal fiction site. a lot of "real" ebooks won't let you print but those sites will. i find if if print one, put it over my time & just read i'll pass 45 minutes at a good clip on the treadmill no problem. good luck. and do pay attention to what you eat. you can be eating that cheeseburger & get to really thinking about the grease, calories, sodium...then you're like ew. :) Patrick: Just do what I do when I have problems. SCREAM.
Spectra Spectra 8 years 33 weeks
I got into a similar situation a while ago. I had gotten down to a good weight...106 lbs (I'm 5'3") and I was in great shape. Then my sister got engaged and I was still single. I was depressed and I started eating a LOT (I went through 1/2 gallon of ice cream a week!) and although I still exercised, I managed to gain up to 130 lbs. I had to pull my "fat clothes" out of the closet and I just felt like a blob. I motivated myself to get in shape by just looking at what I was eating and saying "Do I NEED that?" I cut out the ice cream and replaced it with eating a single serving ice cream bar instead (for portion control). I kept up with my running and started to increase my miles gradually. I also had to be brutally honest with myself about how many calories I was's easy to underestimate how much you really eat unless you write everything down and look at it.
luckykarma luckykarma 8 years 33 weeks
140 views and 3 comments??? anyways, thanks to you guys that commented. it really helped. I do not know why I am the way I am right now, maybe I am depressed. Hopefully just working out will get me out of my funk, thank you.
kitryne kitryne 8 years 33 weeks
I'm in the exact same situation. I've found that just absolutely forcing myself to go to the gym seems to help, but sometimes, even that doesn't work because I'll just find an excuse to cut out early (oh, my toe hurts, I'm tired, blah blah blah) Having a friend keep me in check seems to do the trick. We made a deal to encourage each other when we do good, but incessently (and good naturedly) nag each other when we screw up. Find a buddy, or even your boyfriend and double-team it! Also, treat the depression professionally, although, once you get in a good exercise routine, it's a natural antidepressant.
ALSW ALSW 8 years 33 weeks
I agree with the above commenter. I weigh about the same and have little motivation, but I'm trying! And I'm sure once you work out any other issues, perhaps you can focus on this - good luck!
Shiloh-Jolie-Pitt Shiloh-Jolie-Pitt 8 years 33 weeks
You truly sound depressed, and apparently you don't know the reason. In my opinion, what you need is to go see a therapist, there's obviously something going on in your life and you need to find out what it is to be able to move on and change. Good luck. _________________________ I'm siiiiinging in the raaaain