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Saved 11/16/09 to Citizen Sugar Happy Hour

I'm Sad

In the grand scheme of things, this is not a big deal at all and I know people have much bigger problems, so I hate to whine, but I'm going to for a second anyway.

My parents are in the process of selling their house right now.  They've been kicking around the idea for a while, but they listed it and sold it quickly (I think they underpriced it) and they have their meeting to finalize everything on Thursday.  They haven't found a new place to buy yet, so they decided to rent a house for a bit because they don't want to rush into buying something they don't want.

I know this is silly, but I am really sad about the fact that they will no longer own the house I grew up in.  We have so many memories there and I love that house.  We moved there when I was in second grade, so I spent more time there (by far) than in any other place we lived.  They have a large wooded lot and the house is on a beautiful country road.  Last Christmas, when my mom picked me up from the airport and drove down the street, the snow on the trees looked beautiful and I felt like I was home.  (I love D.C., but for some reason, Ohio still feels like home to me.)

They are moving to a smaller house on a tiny lot on a typical suburban street.  It just won't be the same.

Everything about the move makes sense.  My mom has MS and my dad has been having horrible knee problems, so it's best for them to live somewhere without stairs.  My sister is married, so she no longer lives there and I no longer even live in the same area; my parents don't need 3,000 square feet and 2.5 acres any more.  My dad can't even take care of the yard like he used to.  And, my mom will be closer to my sister, so she'll be able to watch her stepkids more.  Like I said, everything makes sense.

But, I'm still upset about it.  And I can't figure out exactly why.  I think it's because I won't feel like anywhere is "home" now.  My parents will have moved.(They are only moving about 15 miles, so it's not as if they're going far.)  And I still don't feel like D.C. is home.  When I go to Ohio for Thanksgiving, that will be the last time I ever set foot in the house I grew up in.  I'm just sad.

Anyway, I know this is happy hour, so I'll stop with my complaining, I just needed to let it out.  Thanks for listening to my whining; sorry to complain so much about something so trivial!

syako syako 6 years 27 weeks
I think my dad's the same. His idea of retirement would be work in the morning, golf every afternoon. :)
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years 27 weeks
Yeah, it's hard to succeed if you don't really put the time and effort into caring about your policy holders. My dad works for a company that can be a little more expensive than some others, but he's kept the vast majority of his clients because he's good at customer service.
hausfrau hausfrau 6 years 27 weeks
I have a friend in insurance sales and he feels the same way. It's nice that the people who are good at that job, with their hearts in the right place, rise to the top and do it for years and weed out those who are not so great.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years 27 weeks
Yeah, my grandpa still works as an engineer. He's in his eighties, so not as old as your grandpa was, but he's still pretty old to be working as much as he does! I think he goes in about two days a week. I think for my dad a big part of it is that he's really connected with a lot of his policy holders. Some of these people have been his clients for 27 years, so he likes going to their houses for appointments and talking to them on the phone.
hausfrau hausfrau 6 years 27 weeks
Its probably a good thing to not stop working, I really think being engaged in something and using your brain power every day is the key to living longer. My gpa lived to be 102 and until about 2 years before he died he was still woodworking (with Parkinsons - scary!) and my brother taught him how to use the Internet. He LOVED the Internet! He was very engaged right to the very end and I think thats a big reason why he lived so long.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years 27 weeks
T S, that's the one good thing. Barring any really strange circumstances, I know my parents won't move away from that area. My sister lives there with her husband and stepkids, my parents both grew up there, and my dad's extended family is there. Plus, in a way, my dad is never going to retire. He's gradually having assistants take over his agency (he's an insurance agent), but he still goes in to the office. Now, he actually still goes in five days a week and has appointments on some Satudays, but he's phasing it out, so he'll do four days a week, then three, etc. But he'll never completely stop working. It's just the way he is.
T-S T-S 6 years 27 weeks
K, I get it. I still drive by my old houses when I get a chance, though we moved quite a bit, so it's not quite as much of an emotional pull. And! I swear, this has happened to me three times, when I'm driving by one of our old houses "Old Apartment" by BNL has come on the radio. Eerie! Also, this is the third instance of someone putting their house on the market and having it sell super quickly I have heard in the past week! My neighbors just sold their place, and a client of mine is a little freaked because he didn't think his house would sell before the holidays and now he has to move! The new family might not love the yellow carpet and want to replace it. If so you could ask if you would keep a swatch, or even a big piece and use it as a rug. And I don't mean this in the annoying one-upping way it will probably come out, but at least your parents are staying in the same area! I used to be able to see friends from my last high school and first half of college when I went home to visit them, but they moved to another state so now they are the only people I know when I go home for the holidays. I miss getting to meet up again with friends from their old town.
cheekyredhead cheekyredhead 6 years 27 weeks
I am jealous. We moved almost every year of my life. I have little memories from each place but nothing as solid and historical as yours. When my grandma sold her house I went and dug up her favorite rose bush and transplanted it for her at the condo she moved to. When she passed I brought it to California and I have moved it twice but it thrives. It is an heirloom cabbage rose, pale yellow, and has the most beautiful smell. This last move is hopefully my last for a long time. I carried her cabbage roses in my wedding bouquet, so in a way they were something old, new, a part of her...all with me on my special day.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years 27 weeks
Thanks, zeze. I also hate when people complain about stupid things, especially given that other people have much bigger problems, but I just needed to complain today. I'm glad it didn't come off as too whiny! And you're completely right, I'm sure they'll be replacing the carpeting. It's old and there's a Kool-Aid stain on it. (We hid it with a bookcase.) And the wallpaper thing is a good idea!
hausfrau hausfrau 6 years 27 weeks
I think its totally understandable. I was just home and I keep pushing my parents to move into a condo but I know that once I go back to that town I'll never be able to drive by that house and it will be hard to not just go there... they've had it for over 30 years. That being said, moving as much as I do now, I try to remind myself of this cross stitch my mom made me that says "a house is made of wood and beams, a home is made of love and dreams" it's hokey, but i do think its true... i agree with everyone about taking something too!! :)
syako syako 6 years 27 weeks
pot smoking kitty. I love it.
zeze zeze 6 years 27 weeks
You know I hate it when people complain about trivial things without realizing how badly others have it...but Kim you're the best complainer ever! lol Honestly its the sweetest rant I've read yet. And I think you should totally take a piece of the carpet, I'm guessing if it's old enough that it was your childhood carpet the new people will tear it out anyway...if you feel that guilty ask them if they will be replacing the carpets. Another cute idea is a rip off "Full House" - framing a piece of wallpaper from your favorite room. I've always thought that was so cute.
cine_lover cine_lover 6 years 27 weeks
Lilkim what is wrong with the Pot smoking kitty? ;)
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years 27 weeks
My sister's actually hosting Thanksgiving, so my parents aren't even hosting. But I am happy that at least I will get to be there one last time before my parents move. And on Thanksgiving morning I can get up and watch the parade with my mom before we head over to my sister's. Watching it has always been a tradition. I think part of me is sad too because my parents are getting so much older. My mom is too tired to even host Thanksgiving this year. Sigh. (I don't want to do the sigh emoticon because it's that creepy kitty.)
snarkypants snarkypants 6 years 27 weeks
i agree with everyone else! i am dreading the day when my parents decide to move. like sy said, think on the bright side, at least you know that this will be the last thanksgiving there. that way, you know to cherish it.
cine_lover cine_lover 6 years 27 weeks
I still have dreams about the house I grew up in, an to be honest, even though it has been 11 years I still don't feel like any place will ever be home like that house was for me. I have to make my own home now I guess. I still think sometimes that if that house I grew up in goes on the market I will buy it. It was the best house ever!
syako syako 6 years 27 weeks
I'm with everyone else, I'd feel the exact same way if my parent sold their home. Especially now that I live far away from home it would be even harder. :hug: The silver lining is that you do get to see it again and have one last family gathering there. That's very nice! It will be a really special thanksgiving.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 6 years 27 weeks
lilkimbo, if the carpet goes all the way into the closets? take it from there....not that noticable! My mom let us take a brick from our garden wall. that brick is the touchstone for all my memories.
starangel82 starangel82 6 years 27 weeks
You could do that lilkim... then put it in a scrapbook or something. More portable than a doorknob. (Nothing wrong with a doorknob, it's just our doorknobs are nothing special!) You'd have to be careful not to ruin the wall though when taking it.
amybdk amybdk 6 years 27 weeks
I know my parents will be looking to do the same in a few years, lil. And I know that I'll be sad, just like you. I like the idea of taking something!
lilkimbo lilkimbo 6 years 27 weeks
Thanks for the hugs, Harmony and genesis. Star, I thought about taking some of the border in my old room. It's been there since I was in 7th grade, the last time we redid the room.
starangel82 starangel82 6 years 27 weeks
If my parents ever move out of their house, I'm going to steal a swatch of wallpaper out of my old bedroom. I've loved that wallpaper since the day my dad put it up. You can't find that pattern anymore because the company discontinued it. I think my mom would probably try to take the door frame where she measured and marked mine and my sister's height over the years.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 6 years 27 weeks
:hug: I will probably cry if my parents sell my childhood home (although I don't think they will) It was the house I grew up in and my dad grew up in that house before me. Been in the family for a few generations.
harmonyfrance harmonyfrance 6 years 27 weeks
LIL :hug:
bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 6 years 27 weeks
:hug: Kim I think stealing something is a perfect way to remember your childhood home! We moved around a bit, so there was never a house that made me feel the way yours makes you feel. But after I graduated high school, my parents moved to a house and lived there for 10 years. We have many special memories there, so I think that place holds a special place for all of us. Sam's idea of the doorknobs made me think about the doorknobs there...they were clear lucite with golden flecks and a gold core. So totally 70's! We laughed so hard when my parents moved into the place, thinking that we'd replace them as soon as possible. But we never did. We kinda started to love them. And now I wish I had one!