My boyfriend's mother lives with him
My boyfriend is 32 and we have been together for a year. I was aware that his 73 year old widowed mother was staying living with him in his house, but for the first 5 months, she was out of the country (where she has four other children) and we practically lived together, even though I had my own place about an hour away. She has been back for a few months, and when she first got back, we were seeing each other only once a week. After a couple of weeks, I couldn't handle it anymore and fought over seeing each other twice a week and it took us breaking up and getting back together to get that. His mother's nice, even though I've only met her a couple of times briefly. But she's old and she can't drive. And he guilts himself because she's been widowed for 14 years. His sister who lives 5 minutes away helps take her places, but his sister also lives with her in laws. I made a mistake a couple of months back and ended up sleeping over at his house and it was completely awkward while I slept in his room and he slept on the couch in the livingroom. I told him I would never do that again. And about a month passed and we broke up again after a strenous month of fighting becuase twice a week still wasn't enough for me. Then a week later we got back together yet again and he was a mess during that week, as was I. He said not only should we see each other three times a week, but that he'd tell his mother to return to the country where his four other siblings could take better care of her. He said he needed me more than his family, but it's not like I want him to grow apart with his family either. But we've been slowly arguing again and now, he's upset with me because I won't come over and spend this Friday at his house because he wants to watch a pay per view event that he's been looking forward to for months but wants to watch it with me. We keep fighting over the same issue and his attitude is not helping me warm up to his family, but it's so hard to break up with him. He keeps talking about marriage and is saying his family and I should get to know each other before we get married, and I agree, but I'm having a hard time liking his family when they don't care about him having his own life and depend on him. He continues to talk about marriage but hasn't done with anything about the situation with his mother. Granted it's only been a couple of weeks since we got back together, but I am losing my patience and so is he. I am just very frustrated with the entire situation. What should I do?