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Rejected befor sex? Do i get in contact?


So, I’ve known this guy for around seven years since our school days, we have always kept in touch and both had known there was a connection between us. Finely after years of keeping in touch we meet up at my house, everything was great nice wine good convocation laughs all the way...we both seemed to be in to it...so the night went on and we ended up in bed together kissing etc (it felt so right)....and then BANG! As soon as we were just about to have sex (we where both naked at this point) he say "sorry I cart do this" "it’s not you it’s me" "not be able to since my last girlfriend". He then said he wanted to leave and he felt bad WTF! Help? I’ve never felt so humiliated in my life; I could not believe that I had let this person in to my life I totally blamed myself for a long time. It never had my feelings hurt so badly! It was not meant to happen like this. What makes it worse now it that he’s not been in contact, it been over 3 months? I really need answers as to why this happen to me, do I get in contact with him…what would I even say?

Any comments will be helpfull

KatieGeorge KatieGeorge 3 years 42 weeks
I agree with Betty Wayne. Guys don't turn down sex unless they've got some really serious things going on of their own. I'm sure it had nothing to do with you. If the two of you got that far intimately, about to have sex, then he's obviously attracted to you. I would just send him a casual text or email, just saying hi. I wouldn't even bring up the incident at first. If you do get in touch with him, act casual at first, feel it out. He probably is embarrassed and doesn't know what to say to you.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 3 years 43 weeks
It sounds like he has some serious issues that have nothing to do with you. If you value the friendship, send him an email/text telling him you value him as a friend and you would never want him to do anything that made him uncomfortable. He may feel humiliated over his own actions and maybe he's hoping you'll contact him.