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Is It Rude to Post a "Friend Purging" Status on Facebook?


I've talked about my restrictive Facebook friend-accepting policy before; it primarily exists to keep me from adding people who aren't really friends — otherwise after a few years, anyone will run the risk of having friend counts into the thousands. And today, I noticed a friend's status update announcing that she was "purging her friends list. Sorry guys!"

As someone who takes Facebook friendships more seriously than others, the update was a little passive-aggressive for my taste. This process, for what it's worth, is exactly what I'm trying to avoid with my strict friend-accepting policy. What do you think — is making an announcement before purging friends totally rude?

3 years 39 weeks
I don't understand. What is the problem with having friends in the thousands?
komler komler 4 years 26 weeks
It strikes me as a very Livejournal thing to do. (Not to mention, very teen-angsty) I've made several cuts of my Facebook friends over the years - growing apart, meeting someone a couple of times but then not becoming close... etc. but I've done it without making a fuss about it.
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 4 years 27 weeks
I agree that this was probably just a way to get people to write her again. If any of my friends did this, I'd delete them before they could :)
koolbr33z3 koolbr33z3 4 years 27 weeks
If you have to purge your friends, they weren't really your friends to begin with so why bother accepting their friend request?
EricaJane EricaJane 4 years 27 weeks
i think it's rude. period.
dexaholic dexaholic 4 years 27 weeks
I don't agree with posting the status before the purge. But after? Sure!
PrincessOats PrincessOats 4 years 27 weeks
It doesn't really bother me, but I wouldn't do it. I do clean up my friends list every now and then, getting rid of old coworkers, etc. But I never have and never would make an announcement about it.
skigurl skigurl 4 years 27 weeks
i have noticed a couple people doing this and i find it weird if anything, it just makes me search them in a day or two (when it comes to mind) and see if i made the cut...and usually i don't care because they're not that importan to me anyway i think either be selective or just delete silently i delete every once and awhile if the person annoys me, bores me, or i dont have any ties to them anymore (ie: they were a friend of a friend when i lived across the country type thing)...but i don't announce it
weffie weffie 4 years 27 weeks
Ha, one of my friends had hers as "Deleting friends... u could b next!" which I thought was totally obnoxious. Another girl recently posted a note advising us to comment on it if we wanted to stay friends before she cleared her list out, which made a little more sense to me. I go through my list and unfriend people now and then but I've never announced it... I figure if we haven't been in touch for a long time they're probably not going to miss me or even notice I deleted them.
mckinseyann mckinseyann 4 years 27 weeks
I think its more of an attention seeking method. Either way it shouldn't be done. There is no reason for it. Obviously the people she removed won't know that she removed them and probably won't see her status update. She's just trying to let others know she got rid of people.
MsTerious82 MsTerious82 4 years 27 weeks
That's very rude. Either be more selective in accepting friends or keep it to yourself when you need to drop some people.