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Rude Things People Have Actually Said to Me While Prego


I was so excited to get pregnant, obviously to be a mother and to expand the already amazing family my husband and I have created, but I was also excited to sport an adorable little baby bump. I had no idea though that as soon as I started showing and expanding, I became public domain for everybody's rude and hurtful comments. Here are five things people have actually said to me.

"Wow, I wasn't as big as you when I was that far along. But don't worry, because you haven't gained too much weight in your face and arms." — My neighbor from down the street drove all the way over just to tell me this. She's also a mother of a 1-yr old.

"Wow, you're huge. You could give birth right now." — I was only 24 weeks pregnant

My dentist said, "Look at that belly! What are you, 8 months pregnant?" I smiled and said, "Nope, just four and a half months." And she said, "Oh, well are you sure there aren't twins in there?"

"I can really tell you're pregnant in your face." — A close relative said this to me. So basically she was telling a pregnant lady her face was fat. Nice.

"How much weight have you gained?" — A different close relative said this and I was so shocked, I didn't know what to say.

"Somebody must be having a baby REAL soon," said some stranger at the vet's office two weeks ago. "Not till August, "I said. And she said. "Oh. Wow."

"Aww you're pregnant, when are you due?," someone asked me last week. "Not till the end of August," I said, and her response was, "Oh god, you're going to be pregnant for the entire Summer? That sucks."

I have smiled through all these comments, because I don't want to be that hormonal prego lady who has an emotional outburst. But man, I'm only 27 weeks along, and if these comments continue, I'm going to lose it one day and really give someone a piece of my mind. Tell me, what rude, inappropriate, or hurtful comments have you received while pregnant?

ChristinaKP ChristinaKP
When I was pregnant with my daughter, I was asked if that pregnancy was an accident after people learned I was 36 and had a 13 year old at home already. Then with my last pregnancy, which was planned and only a few months after my daughter was born(since miscarried), my OB's nurse told me I need to keep my legs closed or have my hubby keep it in his pants, at one of my appointments.
catherine1986 catherine1986
This was with my last child you lookmlike free willy you need to be in bed, or you're as big as a house wow (your due any day now huh? ( I was 4 months pregnant)
ashleebrooks01 ashleebrooks01
Im just 20 weeks... havent gained anywhere but my belly but it is rather big now. Had a guy say ' not that long to go??' In which i replied well yes actually.. another 20 weeks! and then he looked at me and said.. all prepared? As if to say.. you look to young to have a baby.. i bet it wasnt planned. Ergh.. i nearly shouted at him but he is sadly one of our clients at work.. doubt my boss would be impressed, but it really grates on me. Yes i look young, yes i am 22 but YES our baby WAS planned and YES we are sorted. Not everyone our age just gets pregnant for fun. GRRR
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AndyCan21 AndyCan21
Well, atleast I'm not the only one going through this. I'm 31 weeks pregnant and have heard every one of these rude comments over the last few months. It's always really frustrating to feel beautiful and pregnant, and to have everyone making you feel like you're the size of an elephant. I've never said anything remotely like the things we've heard to any woman.
michaelbreaker michaelbreaker
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hitormissus hitormissus
Oh wow, I'm actually so surprised that this happens to many women. I thought I was the only one. I'm 27 weeks pregnant, and it just feels like I'm in the Twilight Zone. People seem to have forgotten basic manners and sensitivity. People, even those who I'm not necessarily friends with, think that they can just comment about my weight. I especially hate it when they point at my boobs and exclaim how big they are.
NicholleL NicholleL
Thankful for baby, and for my job but getting flack at work. Perhaps its the industry (late night server) and hours but I get some awful comments from both catty coworkers and drunks. Granted considering the source (coworker who was rude before i really began to show) and now at 20 weeks had gained 11 pounds..certainly not excessive but yes its all belly on my petite frame..the inside fat jokes and snickers from her and others have gotten to me. I lost 2 lbs stressin over it (not intentionally don't own a scale, just learned so clearly have to approach it differently) Irritates me this sociopath is also a complete hypocrite as I learned she put on 60 in her pregnancy. But thats not the worste.. the drunks I have to deal with.. OMG. Lets just say in the last week I got 2 unsoliceted offers to abort my baby via hanger/ and a punch to the belly..indirectly as the rest of the table laughs. Grrr.. have started lashing back. Thank God I have a counceling appointment coming. I am beginning to think people are complete scum.. wishing I could get a better/more family friendly shift, but they say I do a better job than the others so i am stuck there.. more work .. less pay. Looking forward to some changes (necessary later :) / thank God) in the future. Trying to ..not hurt these people and yet not take it. Think ultimately I am driving some business away.. but they are A$$holes anyway in my mind
csreynol csreynol
I am getting so sick of the "fat" comments! I am 35 weeks. My grandmother-in-law just said she was worried the baby would be too big, and did the doctor say everything was ok? Then she said, "Oh well, I guess being pregnant is the best excuse for getting fat!" Rudeness! What does she want me to do, go on a diet at 35 weeks pregnant? Other ladies, aquaintances from church, have been downright mean. I started wearing my wedding ring around my necklace since my fingers started swelling, and when she saw this she laughed maniacally in my face! "You must feel so fat right now!" She was an old be-yatch who is probably infertile. Come to think of it, most of the rude comments have been from older ladies-maybe there is some sort of fertility jealousy issue there?
jamiek4244 jamiek4244
I am 3 1/2 months and am already starting to show a lot!! I had someone look at me just yesterday and say: "Have you bought maternity clothes yet??" and when I replied and said yes she said: "well i think its time to start wearing them, the outfit you have on looks to be way to small." I didnt even know what to say!!
Amandasnv Amandasnv
So get this...I've been a bellydancer for three years now. I have never been a skinny girl...I like to think I am curvacious ;)....all my life my mom has been giving me war because I can gain weight very fast(specially on the breast area). I am three and a half months pregnant and its starting to show a little (again...mostly on the boobs) Today I was feeling silly and started to dance to my mom and she told me "continue the way that you're eating and your not gonna be a bellydancer...youre gonna be a jellydancer!!!" "It should be that big!!!" I got really upset....I mean...not even when I'm pregnant I can catch a break??? Duuuuude!
myGodyourehuge myGodyourehuge
1st of all, you look sooo cute! Secondly, how in God's name do you find the strength to just smile and walk away?! I'm not finding out the sex of my baby and that just opens the floodgates to everyone's (from the man at 711 to my bosses wife and everyone in between) predictions, of course all of them have been that I'm having a girl because I'm looking I guess, Extremely Gross! The thing I don't get is strangers, they don't know what I looked like before I was prego, maybe this is an improvement. It's just so insulting and makes me not wanna leave the house. I'm having a hard time these last 2 moths
kelton08 kelton08
You look awesome. i too found out I was having twins @ 19 week u/s. I have heard every comment in the book about being huge/big whatever, So annoying! I love when people ask when I am due and I tell them and they look at me with the weirdest look. My favorite: your already so big your going to be just huge you know. I am a nurse and I love when people tell me all about the risk of preterm labor and all, seriously people!
flwrpwr flwrpwr
So I am 31 weeks pregnant and I have only gained 5 lbs (My doctor is not worried, I eat all the time get plenty of fluids and I am taking my vitamins) To me and my husband I definitely look pregnant, however, people tend to say "I wasn't sure" or "REALLY!" like it is a total shocker. I always say "So you just thought I was fat!!" and I try to sound offended. I am upset people don't know, but I get a kick out of making them feel like they just called me a cow!!!
MaunaKea MaunaKea
I'm 21 weeks pregnant...and my boyfriend said to me tonight... I was just looking how your butt is getting fatter.....as I was serving dinner. I got so pist and explained that it HURTS to hear that...why can't he tell me I'm glowing or beautiful like his friends do when they see me and leave his fat comments for another time. He got pissy and left the dinner table and did not eat the excellent garden veggie dinner I'd been preparing for an hour...Obviously has no clue that his comments are painful....this is his first child. I told him that most women would FREAK OUT on that comment and some may even try to hit him afterwards. ...signed pregnant with a big fat butt according to my boyfriend in San Diego
wildsngrny wildsngrny
Oh, ladies, ladies... There is a balance. For example, I am 4'11" and weigh 119 lbs. So I'm really short and NOT superthin--I've got a body that's built for soccer/field hockey. I am fit, but I do not have thin limbs or a 6-pack of abs. When I was pregnant, I gained 35 lbs (right at the "upper limit" of what's acceptable for my age and height), but I was carrying a 21-inch, 9-lb baby. Now, we didn't know his stats while I was pregnant, but let's face it: I was HUGE! I knew it, my husband knew it, strangers knew it...facts are facts, folks. Here's the deal--many of you are equating the idea of large size (i.e., "huge!" "so big!" etc.) with "fat." As in "obese." It's important to keep a sense of humor, an open mind, and to be honest with yourself and with the rest of the world. Practically none of these comments are meant maliciously, but our oversensitive hormones allow us to take them that way. Gentle reminders and witty quips work wonders, too. And remember to breathe--relax. You are the size Mother Nature needs you to be to support your growing baby.
Well, my cousin is "pregnant", or so she says. I dont know how to bring up some points of interest without sounding like a bitch. She is 21 weeks, isnt showing AT ALL(she was a size 2 before and still is the same size, boobs and all), she goes to the tanning bed a few times a week, smokes and drinks, hasnt had an ultrasound(except for the first on at 7 weeks, where she said she heard the heartbeat), had her first blood draw and labs yesterday, hasnt had any checkups(she just got approved for medicaid, and says she doesnt have the money to do those thing, but still goes to get her nails done each week and goes out all the time), and honestly, I think she is just trying to exploit my family into getting things and money. What do yall think?
FrugalFranny FrugalFranny
On a side note i had a friend who was just about due and was getting a check up from her doctor. The doctor is feeling my friends tummy and asks "are you having an extraordinary large baby...?" before she can answer he says "Oh no, thats just you!" My friend and her husband were dead quiet for a few seconds then cracked up! Lucky my friend has a good sense of humour and the doctor caught her on a good day, imagine the consequences otherwise!
FrugalFranny FrugalFranny
I think people like to sahre in other peoples prgnancys. This can be a bit much sometimes, especially if you weren't all that close before. Sometimes their comment may sound bad but they aren't meant in a nasty way. "Gee I wasn't that big" may simply be them saying they weren't that big. It doesn't mean they think your too big, or your fat. Sometimes we need to take comments at face value. I had a slightly ignornant friend who said to me "Wow, your getting really big" on a bad day. I turned around and said" I'm 6 months pregnant, I'd hope so". She qucikly apologised for sounding rude and said she simply said it becasue she hadn't seen me in awhile and she had forgotten how quickly the time had gone. Wasn't meant in a judgemental or hurtful way!
LOL I got ya'll beat... I was hospitalized with m 2nd son's pregnancy for 6 weeks for an unrelated condition and went home with a PICC line and in-home nurses. I'd broken in a few nurses (they would come and have no idea what my condition was, why I had a PICC line, or even that I was pregnant) when I got a new one. As subsequent pregnancies go, I was showing at around 3-4 months, and was overweight/swollen from steroids, but not obese. She's going over their questionairre, including habits like eating and drinking and I responded about my habits, and when she got to the alcohol one, I said, "No, especially considering my disorder AND I'm pregnant." She looks me up and down and says "You're pregnant?? I just thought you were fat!" YEah.... good times... I actually thought it was hilarious, at the time. I responded "Well, I *AM* fat, but I'm pregnant, too!" Imagine if she'd caught me on a bad day...... =P
I showed early and was also all belly. But from day one, all my mother in law could say was "You're so fat! I never knew anyone could get so fat!!" I only gained 21 lbs. I just wanted to look at her and say "Yeah and I'm pregnant - what's your excuse?" I'm trying to get pregnant with number two. Do you think I could get away with it this time?
Lets see just today I've heard.... "Can you drive with that thing?" .....apparently this woman was talking about my stomach. "Wow! You're huge! You're probably due any minute!" .......thanks random man I hear something new pretty much on a daily basis. Some ppl have no filters. I feel huge, so its lovely when random people comment on it, ugh. And yes, I am due any minute, thank you stranger for making me more anxious, the one minute I was thinking about something else.
Let's see I got the " Holy cow you must be having twins", the " You must have your dates mixed up you are huge", at the donut shop some dumpy little mann said " Whoa lady I am gonna have a hard time getting round you, you're gigantic" and when I was 7 months pregnant standing at the back of a church getting ready to walk in a friends wedding as I turned and people saw the full on burgeoning belly I heard a jack ass I went to highschool with say in a not quiet at all voice across the church " Holy sh*t Becky's huge look at her all knocked up". I have three babies a 4 yr old, a just turned 2 yr old and a ten month old I am almost back in shape but each progressing pregnancy I was told I was bigger than the last and that I had the biggest ass anyone has ever seen on a white girl, nice huh.
rhondak rhondak
My recent favorites have been: "When are you gonna have that baby??" -- asked all the time by coworkers who are well aware that I am only 29 weeks along and am not due until mid-August "When was your last doctor's appointment? What did they have to say about your weight?" -- asked by my husband's grandmother EVERY time we see her "Yeah, she's finally starting to come along" -- a comment made by my mother-in-law; I guess I am finally showing enough for her liking
You're telling pregnant women to "lighten up"? Have you been pregnant? It's called hormones... Maybe you should take the time to not take it personally when a pregnant women's inherent sensitivity strikes...you're not the one who's in perpetual discomfort.