i'm not technically a stepmom. i live w/ my boyfriend & he has a 12 yr old son. you wanna talk about hard. i'm only 14 yrs older than him. i say ONLY bc i'm still (and will always be) into cartoons & i watch nickelodeon more than a lot of kids. haha. it's just the type of tv that entertains me. but whatever. i love the kid. he's just not very well behaved & so spoiled he can't see straight. it's really hard for me to know what i can & cannot say. i don't want him running home to mommy whining that i screamed at him when all i really did was tell him he must say excuse me when he burps or close his mouth when he chews. i was raised to have manners. the child has none. serious. it's rather astounding.
good thing is, he likes me and i do like him. we can talk about shows & he's getting me into graphic novels. and god bless my boyfriend. i was / am able to talk to him about what i consider unsuitable behavior in our home and then we are able to decide together what we should do about it. we have come a LOOOONG way w/ manners. he can actually remember to say excuse me w/o prompting. yay!
overall, it's going well. he's an only child so the spoiled-ness i was expecting to a degree. he does listen to me, sort of, kind of, in a way. we'll get there surely? but any advice would be great.