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Things I Wish I Knew Before Having My First Child

The entrance into parenthood is a mixed bag — excitement, love, adrenaline and anxiety are just a few of the emotions most parents will experience. New moms are driven by the unknown and typically want to do everything right but when the second baby comes along, many a mom admits to asking, "What was I thinking?" Here are a few things that I wish I would have known before having my first child.

Things I Wish I Knew Before Having My First ChildTrust Your IntuitionAsk and Take HelpDad Is Not MomThe Beginning Is Harder Than You ThinkBooks Got Nothing on ExperienceYou Don't Need Everything on Your RegistryTake Advantage of the Infant DaysHire a Professional PhotographerDon't Sweat the Small StuffKeep a Journal
GMarie GMarie 4 years 44 weeks
I wish I'd known, going into my first time giving birth that I had quite a bit more say-so than I thought. I wish I'd known how intense the love and the hormones (and sometimes the guilt) would be - especially at first. I definitely agree with the advice to ask for and accept help. In addition to keeping a journal, I started a book of letters to my baby when I was pregnant, and I still update it on special occasions. I'm pregnant now for the second time and am doing the same thing for this baby. I have a few letters my parents wrote to me in my baby book, and they mean so much to me.
4 years 44 weeks
Rather than "Dad is not Mom" perhaps it would be better to say that not all parents fit a mold, Mom or Dad. Not all moms are content to gaze lovingly at their baby for hours on end, and stereotypes like that contribute to mothers feeling inadequate. Not that comment alone, just a contributing factor. A better message to send would be that in conjunction with following your intuition, follow your heart. Much like I get flack for having my children attached to me constantly during the first few months, other mothers get flack for "not being attached enough." It's all ok, you do what fits your needs and your baby's needs. Heck, Dad may be the one who wants to sit on the couch and gaze at the baby endlessly while Mom's the one who wants to show affection in other ways.