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Transition from co-sleeping? II


I have just been reading the original post from MartiniLush. Has her post is 14 weeks old and had no successful experiences shared I am going to give it another go… maybe someone has an hint that will solve our problem.

My daughter is 7 and we can't manage to have her sleeping in her bedroom. She loves her room and has a really nice bed but still she prefers to sleep with us. Maybe it's due to be a single child. Being on of 3 siblings myself, I wouldn't dream or dare to go and sleep in my parents room.

My daughter just told us that having a TV in her bedroom might help. Does anyone have an experience to share regarding TV on our children bedroom. Or did anyone succeed in making this transition smoothly? Please, please share you experiments, even if you weren't well succeed, at least I will have company in my misery. :)

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justanerd1975 justanerd1975 5 years 52 weeks
Sounds like you guys are doing great though! :)
justanerd1975 justanerd1975 5 years 52 weeks
I also used the sleeping on the floor next to me technique, I just took his mattress and made up the bed for him right there on the side of my bed. Every weekend I moved his 'bed' a couple of feet, so he went from a little bit from my bed to almost at the door to at the doorway and then slowly down the hall, finally to his own room. This really worked well for him. It took about a month and a half, but it worked well and did not frighten him. He had night tremors so I took it really slow, but you might make the moves more frequent. We found out later that it really helps if you have a sibling that the younger child shares a room with, then they want to sleep with their older sibling and that makes it cool to be in their own room ;) Good luck :)
eu eu 6 years 1 day
Just to keep you posted on this one. I have manage to get my daughter back to the "prior to being hill" stage: she gets asleep in our bed, but we take her to her bed after she fells asleep. Every other day I'll find the little :monkey: back in our bed in the morning. But there's some progress on that front, as at least she doesn't wakes-up shouting from her bedroom for us to take her in our arms from her bed to hours. So, WORK I PROGRESS HERE. I'm keeping my :fingerscrossed: that I'll succeed in this difficult task of taking our :baby: princess out of our bed.
bluesuze bluesuze 6 years 1 week
:cheer: good luck and keep us posted! :cheer:
eu eu 6 years 1 week
Thank you Sofi. No doubt I am going to discuss it with her. I am so glad I brought this post back to light :)
sofi sofi 6 years 1 week
Don't give up! Sounds like some progress and interest on her part. Go ahead and ask her what would help her in her room. A new night light, the door left open, a new toy, new fun sheets. Sit down and tell her how important it is to you and her dad that she is happy and comfortable in her room. SOunds like she is interested enough to be part of the discussion and solution. Good luck!
eu eu 6 years 1 week
I have got to share this with you… I was mentioning this particular post to my husband in the presence of our daughter and she got really interested in the conversation in a way she never got before. It seemed this time she toke it more seriously, because that same night she felt a sleep on her bad. Well… actually underneath her bed. (its a very tall one the sort that as table and draws inserted in it) The next night she was in our bed again but not comfortably settled in the middle of us. This time she lied on the foot edge of the bed. Regarding TV we definitely decided against it. Your opinions counted a lot to help us reach to a conclusion. Than you ladies. So we're not there yet, but at list there are some progress. I will keep you posted on future progresses, please don't stop sharing your experiences as well. Thank you all.
sofi sofi 6 years 1 week
good idea with the special toy, bluesuze. Go on a special shopping trip to buy a new 'big girl' doll or toy but make a pact that it stays in her room or she can't keep it. My little one is now waking in the middle of the night trying to get into bed with us. I just won't have it because none of us will get sleep! I take her back and she doesn't like it. Now this is for a younger child so I was able in the past to use a sticker chart on her door for every night she stayed in her room like a big girl. It worked and we 'weaned' off of it, but I think I need something again. You need to be consistent with whatever you choose to do- there should be no turning back because it will become a bigger battle. I really don't like the idea of tv in their room. Kids get too stimulated just staring at the tv- and at night! Falling asleep staring at a tv is going to make the child have nightmares or something. I don't think it will promote good sleep habits and restful sleep. Good luck!
bluesuze bluesuze 6 years 1 week
The sleeping next to the bed as a starting point sounds like a great idea. My husband and I agreed no tv's in our kids' rooms, for the same reasons brendelwoman said, I think it will just lead to problems. Maybe get her a special stuffed animal or doll to sleep with, but she can only sleep with it in her own bed? That might help entice her. Just stay strong and you can do it!
MartiniLush MartiniLush 6 years 2 weeks
Hey, eu, still no luck with my little one... :-( I am not sure about the TV, for the same reasons that Brendelwoman mentions above, but I feel like I am almost willing to try anything at this point!! Brendel - I am going to try the sleeping next to the bed hint next... :fingerscrossed:
Brendelwoman Brendelwoman 6 years 2 weeks
I have three kids and they at various times have wanted to be in the bed with us. Sometimes I am willing to do it, but it quickly becomes something they want over and over. I have a 7 year old and he will sleep with me anytime daddy is away! Just recently our 3 year old was coming in every night around midnight. We came up with a solution that for every 7 nights she stays in bed she gets a little pony toy that she likes. It is working and she is staying in her room. It takes 21 days to make a habit but I know with a three year old I could not say wait till 21 days and you'll get something; I had to break it down into smaller time increments she would be able to handle. A 7 year old should be able to handle larger time increments before they get a reward. Also, have you tried first having her sleep on the floor next to the bed? I would do this before having her stay in her bed. If she has been sleeping with you guys for 7 years this will be hard to break. First start with sleeping on the floor next to the bed and give her incentives for doing it for a consecutive number of nights. Then have her go to her room and give her more incentives. I just always kept in mind that it takes 21 days for a habit to form. I personally don't like the idea of a tv in a child's room because I think there needs to be some supervision and also as they get older it will be a distraction from sleeping. Good luck! I hope you find a solution that works for you and your family. - I believe in personal responsibility and that's why I'm voting for McCain. -