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What's It Going to Bee: Party Announces Baby's Sex


It's not all about the 20-week ultrasound anymore! More and more parents are planning gender reveal parties to find out their baby's sex and share the excitement with family and friends. While some mamas-to-be wait until the child debuts to find out if they should buy pink or blue, others embrace the excuse to party before delivery!

Some moms and dads have the ultrasound technician write the child's sex on a slip of paper that is placed in an envelope. It's then dropped off at a bakery where a cake is baked in the appropriate color and iced to hide the news. When the parents-to-be cut into the sweet treat, they learn about their future offspring. The idea gained national attention when Josh and Anna Duggar cut into a pink cake on the Today Show to learn that they were having a girl. The concept is gaining momentum as more couples opt to hold soirees to celebrate their impending offspring.

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Assistant-Community-Manager Assistant-Community-Manager 2 years 26 weeks
My expectant friends had a gender reveal party and released pink balloons from a box labeled, "IT'S A..." - it was so cute and exciting!
Cassie2469482 Cassie2469482 2 years 26 weeks
all of these horrible hateful comments, we are having this party next weekend and the only people on the guest list are our parents the god parents and my aunt and they've already been texting me everyday since my ultrasound trying to get me to peek at the gender, our family is super excited. This is our second baby, we wont be having a baby shower and everyone is hoping it's a girl because we have a boy. gifts are not expected and my mom was the one who thought it would be a sweet idea to share this moment with everyone instead of texting people. Historically in almost every culture there was a huge celebration when the baby was born and you finally got to know the gender, esp. if it was a boy and your first born... we just happen to have the technology to move the joy up to 20 weeks now. It's not an annoying party that we are expecting all our friends to drop everything for and rush over, it's a special moment we will never get to re-do that we are sharing with our family. How did you announce your baby's gender? What if you could have made that moment just a little more special? I would have done it this way with the first if I had thought of it because this makes it more special for my parents who are ridiculously excited... especially since my hubby and I are the only kids reproducing right now!!!
newmommykay newmommykay 2 years 34 weeks
I am having my first baby and I am doing this idea. Instead of a separate party I am doing it as my baby shower. Me and my husband wont know the gender until that day. I love the idea of everyone finding out at the same time. Its more meaningful than sitting in the drs office finding out and getting excited by yourself. Then you have to go and call friends and family. I want to see everyones reaction and their face when they find out. If you cant afford a baker then have one family member or friend bake the cake for you and only they can know the sex of the baby and cant tell anyone else. For gift ideas you can still do your baby registry, scan bottles or wipes or other baby things that you dont need to know the sex for. Scan nuetral colors. If your guests want to get you something big, scan the stroller or crib you like in a nuetral color and have them put that money on a gift card for where its at. Then when you go shopping for it you can buy the pink or the blue colors you want. Thats what I am doing because my husband is in the military so we live 800 miles away from famly and cant drive back all the big stuff. Dont criticize it because of money or greediness. Be creative and think of different ways to make it work. No one said you had to have two parties for it, or spend a ton of money, or that your guests had to bring gifts. You can also just make it a fun get together party. Just because this one person had two separate parties doesnt mean you have to do the exact same thing. Use your imagination people.
espet espet 2 years 44 weeks
A baby shower should be enough. Why such make a fuss with an organised dinner to reveal the baby's gender. I wonder what will be the next best thing. http://www.babygendersecrets.com
MayMommy12 MayMommy12 2 years 47 weeks
You do not bring gifts to a gender reveal party. If anything, its a free dinner with cake for the people invited. I am having a gender reveal dinner, just siblings and grand parents. For me that is 25 people..
marye2021 marye2021 2 years 49 weeks
I think this is a GREAT idea. Too many of these comments are negative. If you don't want to go to a GRP then don't but also don't complain because a couple is really happy about their child. My sister is having one of these and I am SUPER excited about it. No gifts are wanted-- she is doing a gift card for dinner for 2 as one of the things people can win for guessing correctly and a raffle. So it is more of a celebration and thanking of friends and family who are supportive! plus those comments about pricing-- it's called DIY for a reason! I'm doing the banner and my sister is doing the cup cakes herself! little things that won't cost too much at all!
p1qal68 p1qal68 2 years 51 weeks
Please new Mothers-to-be...don't let the negative comments on here change your mind about the gender reveal party!! My only child/daughter is expecting her first child....we are going to have a gender reveal party. This is not about attention seeking self-indulgence. We are so excited about this baby and both sides of the family and their close friends can't wait to find out the gender. It is a very special time that the family wants to share together. It is a very sweet way to make your family and friends feel a part of this blessed event. You can either do simple gifts such as diapers and wipes (inexpensive) or no gifts at all. We are actually doing it more like a dinner party. We will be providing a great meal for everyone and sharing a special surprise. The new Mom and Dad-to-be are going to find out at the same time as everyone else because we all want be surprised! have fun with it. Life it too short...enjoy!
dholloway25 dholloway25 3 years 4 weeks
It's not selfish. And it is not for gifts. I am going to have one once I found out the sex. It will be for immediate family only. Our moms, dads, brothers, and grandparents. It is just a cute way to announce what you are having. I didn't even think about gifts.
Angyll Angyll 3 years 11 weeks
I have actually been to two of these - now they were for second and fourth children - gifts were not required - but at both of them people brought things such as diapers, wipes and general things all new babies need - they were both very fun and not annoying at all - good time with family and friends - can never get enough of that - and I would have bought a gift for each chlid anyway - this way I and the other people who would have too - got to spend some time with the parents - had fun finding out with them the sex - and gave them a gift they can use for their new bundle of joy - FUN!
JustMissy JustMissy 3 years 17 weeks
I love the idea of this!! We decided this is what we want to do instead of a baby shower, I've had my friends offer a baby shower, but honestly most of my friends are struggling, so I'd rather throw a party on my dime. We're buying everything we will need for this baby so I feel like it's inappropriate to let others spend money unnecessarily on OUR child, I understand the whole baby shower concept when a couple or the mother is either struggling or could use the help. That being said I still want to have a celebration for this little life inside of me that I'm already SO madly in love with, and I love to throw a good party! And it will be for our closest friends and family, they all know how I feel about the whole baby shower/ gift thing, and since ill be keeping this a small event, for my out of town friends I've made sure if they wish to come I'll take care of the travel expenses, everyones situations are different and In my opinion I love this idea, it fits me and is a perfect way to celebrate and bring the people I love together. Though I am waiting until I'm 6 months to have the party I agree that 20 weeks just seems early.
3 years 17 weeks
I decided to host our gender reveal party because I didn't want my parents or close family finding out the sex of our baby on facebook......or a text! Not sure why all the negative opinions on the matter. It's a personal choice to attend and by your attitudes I doubt anyone would invite you to begin with. I sent out invitations explaining IF you wanted to participate in the raffle we were having, bring a package of diapers and to wear your "team" spirit of pink or blue. Our parents, siblings, and friends are just as excited as we are. This is our first born - why not make it special? I hope you negative people do not have children....they'll have boring lives apparently!
3 years 18 weeks
I'm having a gender reveal party but I'm not asking anyone to bring a gift. No gifts at all. I think it's a wonderful way to announce the gender and have all of my family and friends and loved ones present. If it's a hassle for anyone, they don't have to attend.
3 years 24 weeks
We're expecting our second and I'm actually thinking of having this (though I must be completely out of the loop as I had never heard of this until today!). My MIL wants to do a big shower (either before or after the baby is born), but that seems weird to me as it's our second baby and we don't really need anything (apparently it's a cultural thing). This would be a fun alternative - a chance to get together with extended family and celebrate the baby while not having an actual shower with gifts.
3 years 25 weeks
This is crazy!! I can't believe people are being so negative!! We're totally having one. Why the hell not! We have get togethers all the time. And everyone is voting on whether they think it's a boy or girl. I like having people be a part of our lives and celebrating and more power to everyone else who is excited and happy to celebrate!! My Dad is making a huge beef Brisket that he starts cooking at like 3am... he's super excited, he loves his new Traeger BBQ... and one of my girlfriends is making us a baby themed cake to bring. I think having a child is an exciting time and if people want to share in the excitment with you, that's awesome!!
lauren lauren 3 years 35 weeks
One of my friends wanted to share the surprise of the gender of their baby with immediate family at dinner. Rather than have a pricey cake with the gender surprise. They went to their local Nordstrom and gave one of the sales people the envelope and asked them to pick out a gender specific outfit. The sale person than wrapped it up and they revealed the gender to the family once they unwrapped it. It was a super low key dinner but a really nice way to have everyone share in their surprise.
3 years 43 weeks
I am having my first child and WILL be having a gender party, these parties are not meant for gifts just for a fun way to announce to your family what you are having all at once, if your family is like mine and LOVE any excuse to all come together than that is another great reason to have a party like this! Mine and my Fiances family ALL can't wait until the party :) so0o I guess it just depends on the type of people you and your family are as to why or why not you think these parties are a good idea!!!!!! I can't wait for mine!!!!!
3 years 50 weeks
It's our first child and we are having a gender reveal party and like someone said before, NOT asking for gifts. Also, we really aren't inviting anyone that will be invited to the shower, except for a few family members and his sister. We thought it would be a fun way to include his friends and their significant others, by having a bonfire, beer and cooking out. It was kind of a fun way to find out and even his guy friends thought it was a pretty "cool" idea! Who wants to pass up good food and fire on a nice fall night? We are just kinda tossing the gender reveal in with it and not going overboard. Maybe some pink and blue plates to go with the cake and everyone guessing what it is, which they are already doing. We thought for our close friends and family this was better then just posting it up on Facebook!
4 years 2 weeks
I don't think there is anything wrong with having a gender reveal party. You're not asking for gifts, you're just asking everyone to celebrate in the exciting new about what you are having! You provide all the decor and snacks. There isn't anything wrong with it.
4 years 4 weeks
We are planning on doing this, that's how I came upon all of these amazing comments. First off, we are making sure that 'no gifts' is on the invite (which I am emailing, I hope that brings me enough into the 21st century, god forbid I MAIL something-how hoity-toity, sorry, but not as impersonal as texting). My stepdaughters are pretty excited for this baby and are even thinking of going to the u/s with us. This is our last child, and we will not be having another shower (this is our second). I think that it' s nice to have a celebration for this child also. Additionally, our group of family and friends get together about every weekend anyhow, we plan on having plenty of beer and a bonfire. Martha Stewart I am not, therefore it will be a night of hanging out and chatting--more than likely with me going to bed early and the rest of my friends and family having a great time while I'm asleep. Sorry for being greedy.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 4 years 5 weeks
:rotfl: Thanks for the good laugh, Steph!
4 years 5 weeks
Everyone who thinks this is "overkill, narcissitic, or annoying" must not have a supportive family, and you guys really must not like entertaining! People don't have to come to the party if they don't WANT to be there! Grandparents of the baby care, great-grandparents, aunts and uncles...we have a big family. This isn't about getting gifts or attention (it's sad that you think of it that way, actually) - it's about sharing a big moment with people you love about the person growing inside that everyone adores, despite the gender. I see this as an excuse to have a get-together, which we'd probably be doing anyway. I would say it's creative, but it seems too mainstream for that. So to all you who think it's a pull for attention or gifts (which...why would someone bring gifts if they don't know the gender yet?), I think YOU need to get over YOURSELVES. Parents-to-be are really more selfless than you give them credit for. Maybe you should think about creating your own excuse for a get-together, if you're so jealous. Maybe something like a "Whiney-Baby Club?" Or you could just stay at home by yourselves and watch your reality T.V. shows and drink your hard alcohol. That's probably way more fun than visiting with friends and family.
4 years 5 weeks
We are planning to do this, but with only two guests: Myself and my husband. We want it to be a private moment, just the two of us. We're planning our own private celebration either with dinner out or at home, and then we'll have a custom cake for dessert. We'll then share the news with family/friends more slowly.
WeAreOverIt WeAreOverIt 4 years 6 weeks
Um, yeah... Our friends found out what they're having and are making a big deal about not telling ANYONE until their "Sex Party" (which is taking place 2 1/2 weeks after they found out). It is ultra annoying. We are boycotting it. A baby shower should be MORE THAN ENOUGH! Then again, we are dealing with the people who need a holiday and/or parade every time something somewhat significant happens in their lives...
4 years 8 weeks
I love this idea. We're having one when my husband gets home from deployment so that the family can all see him upon his return and so that we can finally tell everyone what our 2nd baby is! Ours will basically be a low-key family barbecue with lots of pink & blue decorations mixed in. I'm making cupcakes myself, along with decorating and making snacks, etc. so it won't cost a lot. It's just a fun reason to get together with family and celebrate our new bundle of joy, since I highly doubt I will be given a shower this time and I'm already 7 months along. I figure my 2nd baby will get gypped in so many ways, so this is just a nice way to ...honor (for lack of a better word - pregnancy brain!) the new baby. And really, I don't like being the center of attention, so it's not a narcissistic thing at all. It's cute. If you're invited to one of these parties and don't like the concept, just don't go. I just wanted something neat & special for the family, instead of calling everyone and just telling them on the phone.
Cyrese Cyrese 4 years 16 weeks
haha, this is a cute idea, but i agree with some of the other post; it seems a little greedy to have this party and a baby shower. It would make more sense to have this party later in your pregnancy with your baby shower. When did most of you have your baby shower? I was 34 weeks!