What didn't you expect about pregnancy?


I went to my cousin's virtual baby shower this weekend and while it was a lot of fun, it wasn't quite as fun because my cousin wasn't actually there in person. (Although virtually, she attended!) She's due with twins in April, but as she's barely five feet and carrying two, she's on bed rest now, awaiting their probable early arrival. I think that she knew that it was always a possibility that she'd end up on bed rest, but it wasn't necessarily something that she was expecting to have to go through.

And that got me to wondering - what didn't you expect about pregnancy? Feel free to give plenty of examples!

And speaking of babies, here's the newest arrival in my family: (Born Jan. 24 to my cousin, Kurt)

Meet Claire MaryMeet Claire Mary

LaurenG22 LaurenG22 6 years 33 weeks
Well, its tough to get assigned to a different one. I can go off the prime and then PAY for medical care, but if I get a doctor like she did, I will ask to switch. I have about 12 doctors I can switch to, but I am just going to do that once or if I get pregnant. (I am afraid of jinxing myself!!!)
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
That is really sad! ANd it sucks that you don't get a whole lot of choices. I couldn't stand having a doctor who didn't listen to me, particularly if he tried to refute everything that I said. I take it that it's not like you could just go get another doctor, right?
LaurenG22 LaurenG22 6 years 33 weeks
There is nothing wrong with the army doctors per say, it is just the ones I have to go to seem to be distracted, not really listening, etc. They are more likely to just prescribe medicine and NOT even hear me. My friend kept telling her doctor she might be pregnant and he gave her a prescription for an antibiotic you CANT TAKE while pregnant. She demanded a pregnancy test and he said there is no reason. Its just odd to me that we have "such great medical care" but when it comes down to it, the doctors just don't know or they just don't care!
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
Quacks are never good! I'm glad that you had a much better doctor the second time.
mominator mominator 6 years 33 weeks
ALSW I guess I am just blessed with good genes. People that did not know me back then are shock when I pull out the pics to prove it. A lot of it was water too though. I had a quack for a doctor. My doctor for my second was awesome though.
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
And the baby's name still drives me crazy! I keep calling her Mary Claire. :)
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
Wow, mominator! How did you lose it all again???
mominator mominator 6 years 33 weeks
Claire is adorable! Love the name! 70lbs? Try over 100 lbs! I gained over 100 pounds with my first child. I gained 50 something my second. It did not take me to long to lose most of it though.
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
70 pounds with one pregnancy? Good grief! JPJ - That is funny! I have heard mixed things about losing weight from bf-ing though...
LaurenG22 LaurenG22 6 years 33 weeks
hahahaha, that is funny :) I am thinking that the weight gain is normal but most women take it that they should eat whatever the hell they want with free abandonment. Those are the ones (ie my MIL with my husband) she gained about 70 lbs with her first pregnancy and she has not been able to lose it since then. She got bad habits for whatever reason and they just stuck.
suebree96 suebree96 6 years 33 weeks
:ROTFL: That was funny!!!
JustPlainJane JustPlainJane 6 years 33 weeks
I have a funny story, one of my best friends gained a lot of weight w/her first baby, and she figured once the baby came she would lose at least the 8 lbs he weighed plus the weight of the placenta once he was born, and was surprised that soon after she gave birth she actually gained weight. It was a WTF moment, she then found out that you burn crazy calories from breastfeeding, and figured she'd have to nurse her son until he was 18 to lose the amount of weight she gained from being pregnant. :ROTFL: Well, at least it was funny to me :oops: *Thank you. My real name... is plain... Jane Jones. (Alice - Closer)
suebree96 suebree96 6 years 33 weeks
It's a good idea, if that's what you'd like to do. I think it also will help with the typical aches and pains associated with pregnancy if you are fit. Just walking everyday, will be great because it is something you can keep doing through your pregnancy. Yeah, when I want' gaining any weight I was worried. My husband had a friend that kept telling me "You need to eat more, you are getting to skinny!" But I was eating like crazy with that pregnancy. I had bacon sandwiches for lunch, eating ice cream with cookies smashed in it, LOL literally I was eating a lot, but I was also making sure to get those 100 grams of protein a day. And walking. If only he had seen me eat!! LOL But I could see my body losing weight. It was weird.
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
Wow! I can't imagine not gaining any weight at all. I'd like to...:) I'd really like to lose a few pounds pre-baby, so that hopefully it's a better pregnancy and easier post-baby.
suebree96 suebree96 6 years 33 weeks
Yeah, it helped. I was thinner after I gave birth to him than before I got pregnant with him LOL I went from 129 to 120 after I gave birth. And for at least my first seven months of pregnancy I didn't gain any weight at all. I would get weighed in at every appointment and I never put on any weight, I asked the doctor about it but she said that my baby was measuring perfect and the weight must just all be going to him . He was big. My first one weighted 6 lbs 3 ozs and my second was 7lbs 8 ozs, big difference.
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
Well, my doctor did tell me to walk 30 minutes daily for health and to help lose weight. Interesting. Awww, walking everyday and feeding the ducks. That's so cute!
suebree96 suebree96 6 years 33 weeks
No not at all. I wasn't overweight when I got it with my pregnancies. As a matter of fact I was underweight with my first child and I got it. I didn't get it with my second but I was eating a lot of protein (they say 100 grams a day of protein helps with baby's brain development), and I was walking everyday. We lived in Germany when my hubby was in the Army, and since I didn't have any television, I took my oldest son for walks everyday. We'd go out for a couple of hours, or at least a 2 mile walk and fed ducks. :) Sorry flashback. But I am convinced that is what kept it under control.
ALSW ALSW 6 years 33 weeks
What risk factors lead to gestational diabetes? Is it mostly due to weight? (Cuz if it is I'm going to get on the treadmill more!)
LaurenG22 LaurenG22 6 years 33 weeks
I am sad, I always miss the good conversations!!!
LaurenG22 LaurenG22 6 years 33 weeks
My MIL was 45 and just had a baby- she was overweight, had gestational diabetes, and now she is thinner then before and her diabetes went away!! Finally a baby kicked some sense into her and her diet!
suebree96 suebree96 6 years 33 weeks
Only with my second ALSW LOL I learned after that. Besides I was wanting him out already. He was bigger than my first son, so I was having pain in my right legs so bad I felt I couldn't walk. My doctor said that the pain was due to the fact that my bones were spreading more to accomaodate his size. I have never heard of the gestational diabetes lasting after pregnancy. I guess I was lucky. The only thing I have to watch out for is that because I had gestational diabetes, I can develop diabetes when I get older, which is something I try to prevent.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 6 years 33 weeks
LOL I am sooooo sorry I missed this conversation! :-) My coworker had gestational diabetes too... it wasn't fun for her. They say that sometimes even after birth you stay diabetic. Yikes.
ALSW ALSW 6 years 34 weeks
Oh, geez. Best for who? :)
books-and-shoes books-and-shoes 6 years 34 weeks
Haha, suebree! Yikes! I have been in the room when Mr. Books and his friends were discussing how sex during pregnancy is the BEST! :oy:
ALSW ALSW 6 years 34 weeks
I had heard that though! Oh, Sue...with how many kids? :)