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Saved 12/02/06 to Group Therapy

Why do I even care

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When I was 15 my dad began molesting me. To make that even worse when I couldnt handle it anymore and told a friend shit hit the fan and charges were brought up. Your probably thinking worse? Well its worse because my mom refused to believe me sided with him and had me admitted into a behavorial rehab center saying I was phsyco and on drugs when in actuality he was the drug user. I get out and she makes me live with other family members because hes not allowed to live with me for 6 months. After that period I had to live with him till I was 18 in a constant hell where I was even removed from my school and lost my cheerleading team Sad Fast forward its been 6 years Ive since moved very far away and cut off contact, my little sister sadly has to deal with the situation and hes even further into drugs and my mom just doesnt care taking any anger out on her! Theres nothing I can do. I have my own family to take care of and CPS isnt listening. Until yesterday. As my mom is blowing out her 42nd birthday candles the police bust in the door and arrest my father on 3rd degree bulgary charges. How come after all this bs Ive been put through I managed to still cry? My dads going away for a few years I have no doubt about it. Im holding on to this false hope that this is going to make him better set him straight, but why do I even care? I cannot get this out of my head and I cant let go of it. I just want to cry and go be with the family that pretty much has said fuck me. Whats wrong with me?

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beautiful1nes beautiful1nes
Wow I feel for you girl you've been to hell and back. I'm proud of you for hanging in there I don't want you to give up, you've been soooo strong. What happened in your childhood WASN'T YOUR FAULT!!!!That was you dad and mom, I can't believe your mom wouldn't believe you. You dad is fuckd up I hate it when I hear bout this shit on the news it is sooo sad. I want you to not put this on yourself, It was your DAD. repeat this is your head if it helps any? "Its my dads fault not mine"! I want you to keep strong I know you'll never forget what happened to you and thats perfectly understandable but I want you to put the past behind you. Start a new life and live it happily, thats what you deserve. My wishes and heart goes out to you girl try to be happy. *smile*
lickety split lickety split
wow, that's a lot for you to have to have gone through. i worked in a family law office for a couple of years and there was this one time where the dad was molesting the teen age daughter and the mom refused to believe her. our whole office knew this girl was telling the truth but the mother didn't want to see it. years later i read in the paper that the dad was finally charged with molesting another child (not a family member). the family court system is designed to keep families together, not provide treatment to offenders or even to victims and the records are sealed to "protect the victim" but it usually ends up protecting the offender. i think everyone wants to be believed, especially by their own families. and we all want acceptance and love from our parents. i hope you don't mind me saying that your mother did not and is not acting in your best interest; she's not the mother you need her to be. for what ever reason she won't face that. you might try going to an actual support group for molest victims. there is comfort in knowing that what has happened to you has happened to others and that they have picked up the pieces and moved on. you're a sensitive, caring person and that is somewhat remarkable given what you have been through. there are many that would have a different outlook on life. i don't believe the saying "you never get more than you can handle" but i do believe that a person's true character is revealed by adversity. you have overcome a lot and deserve to be proud of that. take care.
jjr jjr
You're not responsible for the horrible things that happened to you as a child. Put yourself and your family first now. Don't be afraid to seek help to get you through this. Take care.
ChaCha ChaCha
Hey there, Hang in there... My heart goes out to you - you are very strong for now having your own family and I am sure if/when you have kids you will be a good mother. I have had some tough times in my life as well and I keep hoping that my parents would change and I could feel the warmth that I crave. However what I learned from my wonderful doctor (psychiatrist) is that I can create this warmth in my life by creating a happy family of my own. I am working on it - although the craving comes back once in while. Take care...