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Is it okay to register when there is no wedding?


My fiance and I will be getting married next spring and have chosen to save the money and time that it would take to have a wedding. He recently went through a foreclosure and we really would rather begin saving for our future, we are also a bit shaken by the foreclosure experience so spending a large sum is just too stressful. Instead we will have his father marry us and only about 10 family members will be present at the ceremony, we most likely will go out to dinner afterwards. Here is the problem, many of my friends have asked me if I'm registered, I am not, and have no idea if it is really a good idea since hardly anyone will be invited to the actual wedding. what is the etiquette in this kind of situation? I wouldn't want people guessing on a present if they choose to get us one, but I also think it would come of as rude to send an announcement for the registry but nothing about the wedding. do we have to explain to everyone that we have just chosen to skip the wedding? is there some tasteful way of announcing that there is no wedding but there is a registry? Please help.

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lauren lauren 3 years 15 weeks
I agree too, I think you should register! Your friends and family just want to say congratulations!!
bingbingboom bingbingboom 3 years 15 weeks
Go ahead and register. I agree with myhousemd, friends want to give a gift because they care, not to exchange for a party. So register for stuff at reasonable costs, just don't do it on a site like NeimanMarcus.com =) Congratulations!
myhousemd myhousemd 3 years 15 weeks
When I give a wedding gift to my friends, it isn't in exchange for a big party. I give them a gift to help them start a home and a family, and that gift makes our friendship a part of that home. So, I say register!
4 years 15 weeks
No, you shouldn't register.
4 years 16 weeks
Sure - why not. You should have one ready in case anyone asks. Usually close family friends and relatives will ask since they want to help you celebrate your joys. My sister had a tiny reception just for 15 people total but she still had a gift list at myregistry.com (nothing too crazy) but whenever anyone asked where my mom would politely refer them to the small list of suggestions.
Renees3 Renees3 4 years 16 weeks
I also think it might be a good idea to have some sort of reception for a few friends and others to come. it can be just like a backyard BBQ, but something so your friends can celebrate your marriage. Just an idea!